How much does/ did your 3 month old cry?

[NightOwlStacey]

DD was quite colicky but grew out of that a couple of weeks ago. She's almost 13 weeks and now still has bouts of crying each day, eg this morning I've had to bring her out in the buggy to settle her. She still probably cries and wails 2-3 times a day (grizzles more than that). I don't know what's normal. When I meet the NCT group all of their babies seem very placid whereas I'm on edge waiting for DD to cry as if she's awake she isn't that happy just lying in her buggy or being held.

Sorry not 2-3 times a day more like 4-5.

3 of them just when they needed something. DS1 all the time, but he's ill.

Cries for how long each time?

All the time if they weren’t being held or amused. (So I spent a lot of time holding them, didn’t leave them to cry.) Mine would only stand being awake for 90 minutes at a time before they needed to sleep, which they needed help with by walking about.

Have you eliminated reflux and overtiredness etc?

It's sometimes up to 10 minutes at a time but feels longer. Happened this morning but was over tiredness but I had to take her for a walk in the buggy to get her to sleep she wouldn't settle at home at all. Other times I don't know the cause but she will eventually settle when being held.

He cried lots at that age. Colic had passed, but he was still a crier. Mainly due to tiredness and frustration I think, in retrospect. He got much better the better his sleep was and the more he could do for himself. He's 10 months now and such a happy little boy, but he was a right misery guts when he was tiny.

DS is nearly 11 weeks and isn’t really a crier. No proper crying for no reason you can fathom crying.

I used to take him for lots of long walks at that age, and he used to have his dummy. Got rid of dummy at 7.5 months when he didn't really need it any more and he was waking for it at night. He was always much better at baby groups too, being out and about, although some days I was nervous to take him.

All the fucking time. Nothing "wrong" with him, he was just an extremely high needs baby that was never happy.

DD cried so much I was worried there was something seriously wrong. I stopped going to baby groups because she was always crying and other babies just lay there so content and calm. I have no idea why but she's she most delightful, happy 8 year old now!

The eldest hardly ever cried. Honestly, it was sometimes days between cries because I was so in-tune with their needs, the routine was fairly tight and easy to follow and, as a baby, they were very easy going.

The youngest cried alllllll the time and I quite often didn't know what was wrong, why they were crying or how to help.

Now they're older, the youngest is still very whingy and highly strung but is much tougher than the eldest and I worry so much more about my biggest child.

I think it's normal and some babies just cry more. However have you checked her for silent reflux? My eldest was very fussy because the acid was hurting him, but he wasn't being sick so I didn't know he had reflux. I also found getting mine into a good sleeping routine, made a difference with how whiney they were. Putting them down at relatively set times avoided over tiredness and just made them more settled when awake.

I don't think it's silent reflux as it doesn't seem to be around the time of feeds and she is quite happy laid on her back too - what are the symptoms of silent reflux?

The crying tends to be if she's out in the buggy and we stop (eg I want to have lunch/ a coffee) or if she's at home for too long a stretch. I wonder if it's boredom?

Hmm doesn't sound like silent reflux then. She would be fussy during feeds, arching back, gassy and not keen on being on her back.

Not sure about boredom - everything is new and stimulating to a baby, so I think it's quite hard for them to get bored when they're tiny. Some babies don't like being contained in prams/bouncy chairs etc and will protest. I'm sure it's just a phase. Maybe try lots of free time on a mat, with some sensory items to interest her. I used to have a basket with brushes, wooden spoons, a shower puff etc. Most of the time they were ignored and they stared at the ceiling light or something!

Loads. Twins. Always one of them crying.

At that age my DD was happy for about 15 mins after she woke up and after that until the next time she slept I had to constantly be holding her, rocking, singing and entertaining. She also hated the pram so nice walks out with my baby group were just screaming marathons. Some babies just have a little bit more trouble adjusting to the outside world than others.

DS1 hardly ever. Really easy going and no problem
DS2 on the other hand.........

Oh my, my babies have all been cryers! At that age it would be constant unless in sling or bath or pushchair. They turn lovely when older but some babies are HARD.

Good to know this can just be the case without there being something "wrong" as we haven't found anything causing it. When will she grow out of it? I was hoping for 3 months...

My little one got much easier when he could sit up unsupported (but that was around 6.5 months...). Before that he was so hard, and I was convinced there must be something wrong. Now at 10 months he is just so lovely and happy, it's hard to believe how difficult be used to be.