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I'm a mum of twins and we recently relocated, not far. I'm so tired, I can't be bothered doing anything at the moment. I'm here on my phone while they entertain themselves.

My friends that have kids have gone back to work and are in high flying jobs and I just feel so inadequate - they don't have twins though. I've also missed out on days/nights out because I've been so busy with the move and with the twins.

The twins have been going to their grandparents one day a week - during this time I've been doing the housework and preparing to move house. I feel like I don't get anytime to myself. When I pick them up from their grandparents, they are on the floor with them playing. I just can't be bothered doing that with them at the moment I am so tired.

They are quite happy entertaining themselves so I just leave them to it. Is there something wrong with doing this? Should I be doing something with them all the time? I don't want my kids being naughty at school because I can't be bothered sometimes. I take them to mother and toddler groups everyday - I've had to quit work because we can't afford childcare for two at the same time.

My husband works full time and is really good with the kids when he's not in work.

I feel so empty like a shell of my former self sometimes.

Don't know what my question is just wanted to rant.

Don’t beat yourself up, the grandparents will be more Interactive they see them once a week. You have them all the time you will be tired. Sounds like you’ve had a lot on your plate recently with quitting work & moving house. Just take it one step at a time. Eventually you’ll feel better but your probably just feeling really run down x

Please, please don't beat yourself up. I actually believe that the best thing for kids is to have mum around but not interfering with their play all the time as it's distracting to them and they benefit more from knowing mum's there if they need her but not hovering over them all the time. It will actually be a lot, lot easier for them going to school if they've not had every single one of their needs met instantly. They need to build up their independence in a safe, supported environment and that's what you're giving them. Don't worry, they won't notice mummy not playing with them. Let the grandparents take the strain. That's what they're there for. Take some time for yourself. Remember who you are. Your kids will benefit more from a mum who's happy and confident in herself.