Do some magical babies just sleep through teething/developmental leaps/separation anxiety etc?

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My dd seems affected by leaps, teething etc but others her age (15m) seem to sleep a solid 11/12 hours no matter what. Is it routine? Luck of the draw? Would love another baby at some point but some days can't imagine how I'd cope with the lack of sleep and another child to look after!

It’s just luck. They’re all different. My first (who was ff btw), was up throughout the night, never really slept through until she was 3.5, very clingy. My 2nd was ebf and sleeping through many nights from 3 months. Not to say he stayed sleeping through but he still slept better than his sister. But every child has their challenges. Those babies who slept through at 6 months may be nightmares at 2 or 3. It’s not like once they can sleep through they always do. In fact, toddler years can be rough when it comes to sleep.

That said, I bet those babies who seem to be sleeping well still have their rough patches and are up all night with teething. But some people have selective memories because they like to believe they are somehow doing it more ‘right’ than everyone else.

I second it’s just luck. My first was a relatively good sleeper. Often slept through from about 5 months. My second thinks sleep is for the weak!

My DTs are only 14 months, so I’ve not much experience, but I think it’s a combo of routine and luck. I’d say mine are great sleepers compared to many I’ve heard of, but one or other of them still wake in the night at times, and we have rough patches where they’re awful for sleeping through. I generally tweak their routine at that point, and it gets better, but as soon as I feel I’ve got this baby lark down they change the game and I’m back to googling how to parent 😂

I’d love another child/set of twins, sooner rather than later - I’ve kind of resigned myself to not having a proper nights sleep, and would like to get it over and done with as quickly as possible!

Luck. We've had a great routine since about 3 months, long periods of sleeping through but long periods of barely any sleep too. He barely noticed his first 8 teeth coming through, we're currently in molar hell.

I have a very dear friend who has a baby 3 months younger than my DS, it sleeps through the night, it sleeps through everything from the sounds of it.

For my own mental health i find myself avoiding them i love my friend dearly, but it is so bloody unfair how easy she has it, and doesn't even know it. I hate myself for resenting her for this.

So, its complete and utter luck!!

Leaps weren't a thing when mine were babies. Had a good sleep Routine with my twins. Had no choice! Teething was of course the exception

Yes, my DS3 was that baby! If he'd been first, I would have thought I was supermum

Leaps are a bit like horoscopes, they always apply to some degree but with 4 now, I see that a fair bit of it is a bit bollocksy, just like teething - other than the exact days around a tooth emerging, there is always some teething going on, so it's sometimes just the previous generation's version of leaps.

However - there is a fair bit to be said about a gentle routine, it really can make a difference with trickier babies. And I love bfing and intend to do it as long as possible but after a year old I do night wean and find it really helps night sleep.

Thanks all. Very interesting - and reassuring! I suppose by leaps I mean learning to crawl/walk more than the wonder weeks thing. My dd has the same routine as a friend of the same age and yet wakes up and now with the molars, argh... As others have said, can't help but compare and wish for that kind of sleep and how easy some things would be. Fingers crossed if we have another s/he'll be like your DS3 @Stuckforthefourthtime!!

There have always been leaps, they just weren't called that! Growrh spurts and teething I think they were called, or the baby simply being teasy.

Yes there are things that you can do to facilitate a baby to sleep, but if it doesn't want to sleep no amount of routine is going to help, thats where the luck part comes in!

Complete luck I'd say. I've 2 children, my dd didn't loose a wink of sleep cutting any of her teeth, if she was ill it would just make her sleep more, leaps didn't really phase her. My Ds on the other hand suffers really badly with every tooth, if he has a cold he's up coughing and spluttering all night, leaps are a night mare - every leap seems to knock him back to sleeping for a max of 2 hours a time.