Working mum/wife

[Mauratee]

How do you juggle these?
Working full time or part time with two or more children, satisfying a working husband, do you get to have a 'me' time amidst these and take good care of yourself?

I mean make love to him regularly as men are usually in need of this more often, when women are tired, we are more likely to want to get some sleep at least, first. Men also like to have their meals prepared ready when they get home from work

Jesus, where to start unpacking this? First point, not necessarily true. I know of several straight partnerships off the top of my head where that's the other way round where the woman has a higher sex drive. That's because we're all human animals with different needs.

Sorry op, you do sound a bit like a 1950s housewife!

But you do deserve some 'me' time if you can arrange it, does your partner share household tasks etc fairly? Can you talk to him about this?

We only have one dc but both work (me part time). Would love a cleaner but we can't afford it so house is generally messy! But we make sure we both have me time. I have, the very minimum, at least one whole day a month entirely to myself where I do nothing but see friends, eat nice food, sew/crochet. It keeps me sane!

Where do you live? 1952?

I have my popcorn ready 🍿.

First of all, your stereotype of men certainly doesn't explain my DP. If that's what he secretly wants, well, tough shit.
DP works full time, but leaves the house at 7am and gets home at 4pm. Usually earlier if he's finished all his work. He does a half day on Friday, but usually works from home for this. The house is pretty much kept on top of but as he's home earlier than me he can wash up from breakfast, fold the laundry, tidy and hoover, he then usually plays Xbox until I'm home.
I work 3 days a week 9-5.30. so two days I look after our son and do the housework etc.
Our son is in bed for 6pm, so we have a quick tidy and one of us sorts dinner, eat for 7ish then relax.
Wednesday nights are food shop nights, DP plays football on a Thursday, and we each get one lie in at the weekend.

Not sure if it makes a difference, but we are both 21, so not exactly worn down by years of hard work and child rearing. It works for us, DP spent last night at a house party and isn't even home yet! I'll probably take our son to the park for a run around then put him down for a nap and get in the bath and relax

Men also like to have their meals prepared ready when they get home from work, I hope I don’t sound like 1950s but I find most men prefer this.

This womn would love to have her meals prepared and ready when I get home from work, too.

But I’m a functional adult in an equal partnership with another functional adult. We cook for each other depending on who is home first/least tired/doesn’t have more work to do.

You are the architect of your own problems.

OP, meant in all sincerity, I think any problems you are having are with your husband who's demanding sex from you when you don't want it and not helping out around the house. It's not about how people juggle their responsibilities. It's about getting your husband to pull his finger out.

This is a bizarre thread

I only have one child so my opinion might not be valid but...

We both work. We share child care pick ups (tho i do drop offs as he starts work at the crack of dawn!) And we share housework.

We both have "me time" in terms of when ds is in bed we have time to ourselves either together/apart if we want. Ds goes to my mums for the weekend every so often.

I cant say i think too much about "satisfying his needs" to be honest.

😂

This is so depressing.

What's your husband doing to satisfy your needs?

By satisfy his needs, I mean make love to him regularly as men are usually in need of this more often, when women are tired, we are more likely to want to get some sleep at least, first. Men also like to have their meals prepared ready when they get home from work, I hope I don’t sound like 1950s but I find most men prefer this.

Ooohhh, I so do like my meals prepared for me. And I like my sex, too. Maybe I am a man in a sheepskin so to say?

OP, you can’t be serious surely. Where did you acquire such a subservient attitude?

Did our get a bang on the head, OP? Who is Prime Minister? What year is it?

I call deliberate goadiness here. No one is this ‘surrendered’ or vacuous.

Himself makes my dinner if I’m working late and I like a lot of sex.

Am I really a man?

Not just a man, who, you are athat mysterious creature known as the ‘Working Husband’ with Needs that must be Satisfied.

No, me neither.

Though it’s just occurred to me that as I’m a ‘working wife’, do I get my dinner on the table and sex on tap?

I'm guessing/hoping this is a joke- am I wrong, OP? If not, you must be aware that this is a very dated outlook on married life.

I enjoy being made love to and having my meals already prepared when I get home from work - where do I sign up to be a working husband?