How to deal with comparisons

[Iamhavingaverybadday]

I recently had a baby and my DH’s cousin has announced his partner is pregnant. I am super happy for them, however I know that there will be constant comparisons to their baby and mine.

We see a lot of DH’s uncle and he is so competitive. He’s always comparing something or other. He is also extremely wealthy and successful so what he says is taken as gospel. He always has to have better things, even is dog is better than everyone else’s.

I just know that when their baby is here there will be constant comparisons and I don’t know how to diplomatically deal with that without looking rude. Dh never stands up to family and idolises this uncle.

I was constantly compared to my cousin growing up and it did my self esteem no good and I want to protect my child from that.

How should I proceed? I know that baby isn’t due for another 3 months but it’s already on my mind. I’m already insecure about the birth
I’ve had, the feelings I’ve had towards my baby and not being able
To breastfeed so I don’t really want to hear how fantastic cousins wife is for having a natural birth, able to breastfeed and having a super
Fantastic, smart baby who is already over achieving 🙄

This may not help...but I have had a baby at the same time as other family members from both my side and my partners. I was worried beforehand about comparisons...because I think that's just bound to happen whether people mean to do it or not....what I have found though....is that you are so bias towards your own bany it really doesn't matter what others are doing. I think my son is the best thing in the whole world so any comparison comments go completely over my head. It's important to remember that all babies develop in their own time so it doesn't matter if another baby rolls first etc...

As for any potential comments about your birth or breast feeding etc....you are Just going to have to try to ignore. What you are doing is amazing....it's a miracle....it doesn't matter two hoots how you get your baby into the world...and it doesn't matter how you feed it. The point is you have carried it along a tough old journey already and you will so whatever you have to in order to make sure it arrives safely into this world. Anyone who tries to make you feel inferior for that needs to have a word with themselves!