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Two or three children

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flamed12 · 09/04/2019 20:32

I have two children - a boy and a girl - 7 & 2. I absolutely love being a mum and sounds cliche but it’s all I ever wanted.

I cope fairly well being pregnant and giving birth but struggle with a baby. It’s relentless and tiring. My toddler is hard work but she’s constantly there and I love that. My older child occupies himself a lot and I feel sad about the future as I know my daughter will need me less.

We, as a family, have made the decision to stay at home until the youngest starts school then do part time hours.

OH said he would consider another child and I would too but at the same time I genuinely regretted having a second for a period of time as I had sent my calm world upside down ( son was almost 5 when she was born).

Now that she’s older I love it however.

What made you go for a third and would you recommend it?

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flamed12 · 09/04/2019 20:33

That I would stay at home**

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Fatted · 09/04/2019 20:34

Nope. I'd never have more than two. My parents ended up with twins for their third child and it's put me off for life. Grin

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flamed12 · 09/04/2019 20:38

Yeah that would be... a shock.

I’m one of three girls and whilst the third wasn’t planned by my parents, we are extremely close. They’re my best friends and I’d love that for my kids I guess.

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pumpkinpie01 · 09/04/2019 20:42

I found it quite a big decision too trying for number 3 but there was a 4 year gap between them and it worked perfectly.

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flamed12 · 09/04/2019 20:48

Yes there would be 4 years between youngest and middle child for various reasons... & 9 between youngest & oldest Hmm seems too large to be beneficial to them?

I think I spaced my first and second child out so much that I’ve spent 7 years looking after a small child. And the thought of my youngest growing up and no longer having a small child makes me feel lost.

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creativeusername · 09/04/2019 20:54

I'm having the same dilemma myself! My kids are 4.5 and 2.5 and while I'd love a third child, I'm not sure I want to go through the baby years again. I'd love for them to have another sibling for their adult life though.

pumpkinpie01 · 13/04/2019 18:32

@flamed12 my oldest son and daughter (8yr gap) have a lovely relationship, they have never argued , she really looks up to him. He is a dad himself , she babysits her nieces, we holiday together . I wouldn’t worry about a big gap.

Smile19 · 14/04/2019 08:10

I have 3 and love it! Baby time doesn't last forever :)

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