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Mums of chronically miserable babies, are you out there?

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user1496231209 · 09/04/2019 19:29

I am slowly losing the will to live
A week ago my DD turned 8 months old and it has been 5 months of misery since she turned 3 months old. As a newborn, she was the most content baby ever however ever since she has cried/screamed most of the day every day.
I hoped that with every milestone she hit she would get happier but it just seemed to make her more miserable.
She's 8 months old now and is sitting up, crawling and starting to pull herself up and stand independently but her moods are getting worst.
For the past week, she has screamed and cried all day every day. She is a great napper and sleeper apart from the odd night so it can't be tiredness.
I've tried everything to get her on side (for want of a better phrase) and it doesn't work. She is my second and my first was a dream compared to her. She's my first daughter and it breaks my heart that she is so unhappy.
When I'm holding her she's scratching me, grabbing my face and hitting me if she's in one of her moods. I cry at least once a day as I feel like such a failure.
Everyone else seems to have such happy and content babies and no one really understands how this feels and how draining it is

Any of you other mums out there?

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DailyFailAreTwats · 09/04/2019 20:16

I'm not in your situation, but I didn't want to read and run. You sound amazingly caring and a great mum. I'm sure this is a phase, but it sounds horrendous. Someone more useful will be along soon, but sending unMumsnetty hugs. X

Fifteenthnamechange · 09/04/2019 20:21

Not now but I did have one of those babies. Going back to work helped & generally it got better with each developmental leap(hate that phrase) & at 2 lots better. Pretty happy almost 3yo now. Do whatever u need to survive Thanks

Rosebud1302 · 09/04/2019 22:21

OP I posted a very similar message a few days ago although I must admit you seem to have it harder than me so my sympathy there. My boy has been a massive whinge for months on and off. On Sunday he got his first tooth break through and has been virtually a different baby since. Could it be the same for your little one? We started teething at 3 months so it's been a long road (on and off he hasn't been terrible the whole time by any means)

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SallyWD · 09/04/2019 22:23

I did have a very miserable baby indeed. She's now the calmest, happiest and loveliest 8 year old. I'm sure yours will be too.

Sonny23 · 09/04/2019 22:28

Just wanted to let you know you are not alone!

My dd is the most miserable baby I have ever met! She's now 2 yrs 5 months, she doesn't like people looking at her, talking to her and definitely won't stand anyone touching her!

She is fine with only me Sad

She seems to show improvements if I am not there, for example, she has seen my dm most days of her life. If I am in the room dm is allowed to talk to her but if she tries to touch her she goes mad. If I sneak out, and she later realises I am not there, it is acceptable for dm to pick her up.

No idea why she is like this though Sad

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user1496231209 · 10/04/2019 08:22

Thank you for all your replies ladies
It's just a relief to know that I'm not alone! That's the hardest thing I think, the fact everyone else seems to have happy babies. Makes me sit here and get so jealous.
I have no idea if it's teething lovely. She has got two bottom front teeth now and a third is coming through xx

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elf1985 · 10/04/2019 08:36

Thus sounds like my lb. He hated being a baby. Miserable, from the second he became aware of himself until he walked and talked. About 1 year he changed completely and is now a really happy little boy. He just hated being dependant on anyone. He want to feed himself, dress himself etc. It will end. Even now at almost 3 if you don't understand something he says he gets really upset.

HexagonalBattenburg · 10/04/2019 10:50

DD2 was like this - just bloody hated being a baby, wanted to be up and involved in everything. Jumperoo helped a lot - just getting her on a level with the more interesting bits of the world (her big sister).

Turned into the sunniest-natured toddler going and as a school aged child is still full of smiles and resilience and giggles now.

Louise7777 · 10/04/2019 16:09

My lo turned 1 last week and is mostly a loving, excitable and energetic child however when he was born I actually thought I'd created the grumpiest child ever!! He generally became quite content when he started crawling confidently and cruising and has lots of different toys to play with. Also food I think helped when he started eating more. It does get better honestly xx

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