Feeling ashamed of my mistake

[Vasilisa19]

Toddler having a meltdown (one of many), I was trying to get her into the pushchair to take her home. She kicks out at me. MIL asks me why she is having a tantrum and I said '..she's just horrible at the moment'. As soon as I said it I felt so ashamed, went home, cried and hugged my DD and apologised.

MIL is still angry at me and told everyone what I said at a family gathering. I feel deeply ashamed... want to get it off my chest so I can learn and move forward. Anyone else struggling with tantrums?

But toddlers can be horrible sometimes, it's normal. Your mother-in law is an arsehole, embarrassing you like that was nasty.

Your MIL sounds harder work than your toddler.

I'm afraid that last night I lost my temper and told her she was 'so selfish'

I remember telling my DD to 'grow up' one day...she was 2.

Ignore your MIL. She has kids so should be more understanding and supportive imo. Move on from it.

Your MIL sounds like a complete and utter tick.

Bet she said worse things about their own kids at fraught moments.

Toddlers are pretty horrible creatures most of the time, frankly. Luckily, they also have their cute moments, otherwise they would probably get left out for the dustman!

Your MIL told other family that your DD was being horrible and that you said as much, it wasn't like she was behaving well and you said it. I expect they all look at MIL and know she is a moaning cow and ignored it.

It sounds as if she may be setting you up to fail or in some way feels competitive. I could be completely off here, but rather than feel guilt I think you should focus on watching your own back with her. Maybe minimal time and when DD and you less tired and vulnerable, unless she shows in the future that she is fair and supportive.

Fuck your mother in law! How dare she try to shame you like that. Horrible bitch!
You’ve done nothing wrong. It’s MIL who had a problem, tell her to do one.

Hmm it’s your MIL I don’t like.

Your mother in law sounds horrible quite frankly. Shaming you in front of family is way out of line.

You had a bad day with a tantruming toddler. Give yourself a break, you're doing ok.

Toddlers can be horrible, and there’s no reason for it. You didn’t say or do anything wrong. Your MIL sounds awful. Why did she feel the need to share that at a family gathering?!

I can only hope that’s the worst thing I’ll ever say! Please give yourself a break those who she told have done that and worse. Including her! Trust meee it’s all a facade. Don’t believe everything u see and hear. People know how to put on a good act and jump on the bandwagon . We are all human don’t forget that.