Partner going away- 2 month okd

[Angel179]

Hi,

Please don’t think I’m a crazy over baring girlfriend because I’m not but my partner is going on a stag do abroad for 4 days (3 nights) and my anxiety is so bad I feel on the verge of a panic attack.
It’s been booked for ages so it’s my own fault but I really didn’t know how bad I’d feel when he first told me. To be fair he booked it and paid for flights then told me so it was abit late for me to protestbanyway but with being pregnant I just forgot about it. But he goes in a few days and I feel so panicked.

We’ve got a two month old who’s going through a really difficult stage and only sleeps for 2 hours at a time at night so it’s jusy so so hard and him being here even if he doesn’t do anything is such a support. I don’t know what to do 😭 I’ve told him but he just keeps saying he’ll keep in touch but I don’t think he understands how bad I feel really or is just that desperatebto go

Men don't really have the same attachment to babies that the mothers do. You'll be fine though. My DP ended up in intensive care for a fortnight the day after DS was born, and then again a week later, then again at 4 months, then hospital for a month (very touch and go) at 7 months (he's better now).

He's only away on holiday, you can text him or call him if you need to talk. Do you have any family near by?

You'll be fine. Have you got anyone who could have the baby for a few hours so you can get some sleep during the day? Or better still someone who could come stay for a night or two?

Make plans - so meet a friend for lunch one day, see family another.

Get ready meals in so you've at least got something decent to eat that can be sorted quickly while holding a baby.

Make sure you go to bed early, don't be sat round waiting for your partner to call or return messages until the early hours.

Are you always anxious or is it just about this? It might be worth a chat to your GP or HV of you feel it's all too much.

I feel you OP. I wouldn’t have wanted DH to go away at that stage either, and I’m not an anxious person at all - just looking after a newborn is totally exhausting and the weekend was the only real chance I had to get a bit of a break

Do you have anyone who can come stay with you? Or can you go and stay with your parents or other family for the weekend? Failing that, I’d at least book some friends in to come visit you or meet for lunch. It’s lonely being by yourself with a newborn