I've just screamed at my sick baby - I'm a terrible mum

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Don't even know why I'm posting here to be honest, but all my family are at work and I don't know who to talk to.
Long story short, my 7 month old daughter has recently had a couple of bouts of D&V caused by a food intolerance, and was recently hospitalised for a couple of nights for this. The medication she was given in hospital has ended up making her constipated and she didn't go for 12 days until 2 nights ago when she finally managed to go but really struggled and was in a lot of pain. She was still struggling all through yesterday and has a very sore bottom (she can't sit down) so we went to the doctor today who confirmed there's more hard stuff to come but just to let her get on with it and let it run its course, usual stuff, plenty of liquid, prune juice, tummy massage, bicycle legs, calpol.
Anyway, she's obviously very uncomfortable and feeling very sick because she's spent the last few hours lying on the floor squirming and crying and being generally very bad tempered. Whenever I try to get near her she screams and kicks out at me, I'm also pregnant so I don't really want to keep getting kicked in the stomach. So I just screamed at her "Oh just shut up! It's not my fault your poo's stuck, just try!" I mean really shouted, and she was so shocked that she just stopped and stared at me.
Now she's crying with her head in her hands in the living room and I'm in the bedroom typing this and trying not to cry. I used to think I was good at being a mum, but she's had one thing after the other wrong with her for the last 6 weeks and I'm just exhausted with it and feel totally rubbish because I don't know how to help her.
Thanks for listening, I'm just in a mess.

Awe you sound knackered OP! I'm sorry you're feeling alone just now.

I'm sure you've tried everything but have you tried a bath? Then after a cuddle and cartoon? Tv can be distracting! Would her mouth be sore from teething too?

She loves you but she's sore. You love her but you're tired. Rock and hard place. Sending you love and hear if you need a rant.

Oh dear. Loads of us will come on here to tell you that you are not the first to do this. You are under a lot of pressure and have snapped. It happens - you are but human.
You know that your reaction wasn't how you'd like to have reacted. You're big enough to admit that to yourself (and all of us).
I can't tell you what the solution is but perhaps you need to have a some headspace time. Could you go for an evening walk once your partner is home?

Mine are in their teens now but I can so remember doing that, please don't be too hard on yourself it's so hard when they're that young

I’m so sorry! Sounds like a horrid few weeks, especially when you’re pregnant.

No: today was not your finest hour as a parent. And no: your 7-month-old did not deserve to be yelled at for her failure to poop. (You’ll see the humour in that in a few weeks!). But also: don’t worry, you’re not a monster. Go back to your baby, give her a hug, apologize for shouting, and then put the episode behind you. We’ve all had our moments of irrational outbursts. You’ve been through a lot, so cut yourself some slack. I really hope things improve in the bowel department in the next few days!

It happens. We have all done it. You only yelled at her. You've removed yourself to calm down and she is safe. You've had a rough few weeks and you are frazzled. Take a deep breath, blow your nose go and give her a cuddle and say you're sorry for shouting. (I know she's only 7 months but apologising when you know you were out of order is a good habit as it encourages them to do them same when older) All will be well.

Try not to feel too bad. I did something similar last week. My DS was crying and winging from 4am for three hours and I was shattered with a headache. I snapped at him. Felt flipping terrible a few hours later when I realised he had an awful ear infection.
The simple fact is we are human and we all have a limit. Just remember to take a few minutes away in another room if you feel yourself getting to that point again. Its incredibly difficult being a parent especially when they are being harder work than usual. Give yourself a break

You feel guilty enough that there's a very low chance of you doing it again. If you didn't feel guilty that would be strange. I think almost everyone has snapped once, parenting is hard. I remember shouting because DC wanted to feed instead of sleep, felt awful and then let him feed all night!

Oh thank you for the replies!
@Samind teething doesn't seem to be bothering her at the moment but I will check her mouth. We haven't tried a bath since yesterday so I'll do that too, thank you, and thank you for letting me rant.
@walkingtheplank thank you for the suggestion, my partner will be home in about an hour so yes I can go for a walk then.
I'll go and tidy myself up then try and make things up with her.
Thank you so very much for all the replies and thank you for the similar stories, they make me feel a bit better xx

7 months old and crying with her “head in her hands” and “can’t sit down”. Did you mean 7yo?

Go and give her a cuddle - anyone who says they haven’t had moments like this is lying.

Go give your baby a cuddle, and please don't feel shit...most people have lost their rag before.
Just go downstairs nice and calm and give her a big cuddle and kiss.

You are not shit, you are a mum probably tired and frustrated. Be kind to yourself.

When I hear sick child I automatically think 'poor wrecked parent' too. We have all been there, all felt guilty and all felt better when they felt better. Plus you're pregnant! You're not rubbish if you feel guilty. Take care OP

Aww please don't be too hard on yourself. I have been there too, I think most parents have at some point. The fact you are so upset shows you are not a bad mum! You sound like you need a break, I take it your OH is at work? Ask him to take the baby for a while so you can get a chance to regroup

Most of.us have been there. Give yourself a break. It was just a moment x

Singing she's a baby clearly.

Could you try a suppository (up the bum) - You can definitely buy kids ones, although i'm not sure from what age.....I'm sure that will sort her out, far more effective than plenty of liquids etc.

I get constipated and they work wonders for me.

Thank you everyone. I've just given her a cuddle and just running a bath for her. She's started straining a bit so hopefully we'll have some joy soon and she'll start to feel better.
@Farmerswifey12 yes my partner will be back at about 6:30pm so I'm planning to go for a walk and get a bit of space then.
@DuffBeer thank you for the tip, I'll see about suppositories tomorrow if we still haven't had any movement.
@SingingTunelessly no I did mean 7 months, she can crawl but when she goes to sit on her bottom she cries with the pain, and she puts her head in her hands when she's having a tantrum so it was sort of like that.

My 3 year old has a suppository every few weeks. Within an hour she has poo'd. Its not as painful either. Also, having a bath makes her poo too.

We have all done this, you havn't scared your child for life, xx