When does it get less hard??

[Constantine1986]

My baby is 7months old and I really thought that being a mum would get a bit easier by this point. She had terrible silent reflux when she was first born but now seems to constantly have a cold and be teething so is pretty much always grumpy and whining. I see other mums with babies around the same age and their babies seem so much happier and easier. I am not naive enough to think that being a mum will ever be 'easy' but when does it become less hard???

I always thought 7 months was shit. Its the same shit, different day, but now you're having to think about solids. When you're still sleep deprived. And they're teething and have terrible nappies and a ratbag.

The one good thing that happened at 7 months for me was putting them into their own room so at least I could lie in bed with the light on past 7pm again. Small victories!

But it actually starts to get better at 12 months. Or at least more rewarding when they start to wobble a few steps.

Maybe they're just better at faking it than you? Or maybe there lives are just easier.

What's your support network like? Could you have PND? How do you feel about your life? Happy, unhappy? Are you working/studying/able to stay at home? How are things at home?

A lot of parents experiences vary greatly and unhappiness often stems from feeling like we have no choices or control over our lives. Also comparison is the thief of joy

Oh Constantine lovely you’re so not alone. My 20 mo had god awful silent reflux and was just like your little one. I think the first year was just bloody nuts. You think you’ve cracked something then a new tooth and lack of sleep slaps you in the face. I changed my expectations. Instead of expecting the good, I expect the bad and relish the good. That sounds really pessimistic but it really made a difference. Hand on heart I just think some babies/toddlers are easier than others. You’re doing great x

Thank you @ElspethFlashman that does actually make me feel better!

I did/do have PND @ShabbyAbby but don't think that's why I'm finding it hard at the moment as my husband and mum have both said how frustrating she can be when she's like this!

So true @JohnoWhits ! I think that's actually a good way of looking at it. Think I'm struggling a bit because I really want to be enjoying being a mum but then feel down when it's so hard all the time.

I'm still waiting for it to get easier. But I'm difficult, I find life difficult and I struggle with my mental and physical health. So I don't expect my kids to be easy either (and they're not!)

Reflux is horrible and 7 months is still very little and early days. 7 years old maybe? I hear that's a good age 🤷🏻‍♀️