What happened to our naps!

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I need help :(

DD has just turned 11 months. She used to have a long 2 hour nap in the morning and a quick 45 minute power recharge in the afternoon. From 4 months to 10 months we could pop her down in her cot breast feed her and she'd either fall asleep feeding or if she was still awake i'd leave and she would self settle! Like a unicorn.
She's a nightmare at night but that's a whole different post.

The last month she seems to have dropped the afternoon nap but if she misses her morning (Sometimes we HAVE to go out) she wont nap all day and then shes a nightmare all night. She stopped self settling she screams as soon as I lay her down. She thrashes around when I lay with her and hits out. Her nap can be 2/3 hours one day and she has a brilliant day to half an hour and shes a nightmare all day. I'm lost!!
I used to go out whenever I wanted because she would just sleep whenever we got home but I've barely left the house in the last couple weeks because I spend ALL day trying to get her to nap. If I don't I'm just in for another shit night and after 11 months of 2 hourly wakes on a good night I'm done.

Have you tried dropping the morning nap and just going for one after lunch?

Ugh I remember 11 months being hideous. Mine was transitioning to 1 nap then and teething, it was awful.
After we came out the other side she napped in the after noon. Maybe try tweaking for an early lunch and nap straight after, and then gradually try to get it where you want?

Good luck! You'll probably just have to ride it out

Ugh, mine did this! I ended up dropping to one nap before lunch, and it got better. I now plan our lives round their nap time, meaning I can’t go out between 10.30-2 depending upon how they were the night before, and what time they woke up at in the morning, but it’s worth it to stop the nightmare of night time to me.

Good luck!

I've tried skipping the morning nap and having her sleep in the afternoon but if she misses it that's it for the day. I have maybe an hour window to get her down.
She gets up around half 7 we have an hour of play and nappy free time then breakfast then more play, book and bed around 10/11.
We've always been very baby led so no real set timings for everything she just sleeps when she's tired but she put herself in a pretty set routine herself.

I’d start moving the morning nap back slowly so it becomes the lunch time nap.

Both my kids did this. Dropped their second nap, rather than the morning one. I pushed it back slowly, half an hour every few days until it was around 12/12.30. If they took a decent nap then they didn’t need a an afternoon one and could just go to bed a bit earlier so they didn’t get too overtired with the big gap. If it was a crappy nap then I usually forced an afternoon cat nap (in the car) so they could get through the day. Eventually they got used to it.

11 months is probably a bit early, but not crazy early. Both of my kids started this process around 12 months, although they mostly refused the afternoon nap so I knew it was time