Struggling....my 16 month old doesn't sleep and just screams. HELP

[Jayroomama]

Really struggling
My 16 month old daughter is exceptionally difficult!
From 6 weeks of age she has been a very whiney baby and throws alot of tantrums
She has never been a good sleeper and has always woken in the night but recently its gotten so much worse. She wakes every 1.5-2 hours and has a total screaming fit, nothing comforts her...
It's making me so down and all i do is sit and cry, i feel like i cant cope with her and that i am failing her.
My other half is worse than useless and I am doing this alone, while looking after our 6 year old, cooking, cleaning, washing..all while trying not to lose my mind.

Any tips would be massively appreciated.
Thankyou so much

You aren't failing her, your DP is. Can you go to the gp surgery and see the health visitor and ask for advice?

When she goes to bed can you have put a heated pad in the bed before you put her in it so it's nice and warm (obviously remove the heated pad when she is in there). When she wakes up have you tried different ways of holding her? My DS would scream the house down unless I held him in a particular way and facing the right way for him.

Your not failing her at all. Your DP is failing you by not helping. You must be exhausted 😩 have you taken her to the GP? I hope someone can help you and you can get some rest soon OP

Spoken to our gp and hv. Having to try and record her when she is at her worst so they can try and look for key things that may help to identify whats distressing her.
It's getting harder by the day..

Trying to stay sane with next to no sleep and putting on a smiley face for my 6 year old.
As for other half..I have tried just about everything to get him to support me but im accepting he is a selfish little man and I will never help me.
I can do this by myself and one day I will be strong enough to leave him.