My fathers gone on holiday and I've moved into his home with my family DH ( works full time ) and 2 DC 3 & 7 ( off for easter holidays ) to care for my very elderly grandmother (99 to be precise )whom I do love very much we are very close . The thing is he left on Monday and he's not called once . AIBU to think he should have checked in to see how she or we are? Things have been extremely tense/ hard / stressful she has gone so done hill since he left I feel at breaking point already I didn't realise how hard this would be . Ordinarily I and him ( my father) are her Carers although I do not live with them . I know how much he needs the break It just feels strange he's not called once ? There is no help if anyone's asking but I did get a social care number that I called yesterday and was told someone would get back to me to see what's available . Wondering if anyone has any tips to cope with the repetitive questions I feel so so bad even moaning about it but today she asked me to look at the itinerary about 20 times and it's getting only getting worse I make her meals then she says she's not had any same with her pills I'm genuinely so patient with her and I don't like how I'm feeling 😰 today it was like dory the fish from finding nemo . It makes sense now why my dads not checked in 
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