Does Your Husband/Partner...

[mummatom]

Help out around the house or with the kids at all? I'd love to hear what men actually do!

DH does, he gets DS ready for bed every night and does the baths etc. He has DS if I go out at the weekend. He will get up with him one day at the weekend so I can snooze.

I stay at home and do most the house work but he'll do the kitchen before bed, bins, cat littler. He'll put the odd wash on. He also looks after the car, outside and other traditional man jobs.

He is also in charge of doing mash potato

Of course he does. We are both parents

No he doesn't "help" - he does his fair share. When we are both around we parent and share the chores equally between us.

Help, no. He does parent his child though.

You are going to get a ton of replies saying that many male parents don’t “help out” the female parent, they just...parent.

Also that it’s literally impossible to say what “men” do because there are millions of them and some are utterly rubbish parents and partners, some are amazing and some are inbetween. Rather like women.

For the record and on an anecdotal basis, my DH works PT, does 6 of the school pick ups/drop offs (I do the other 4), does the weekly shop, all the hoovering, always cleans the bathroom, pays bills and other life admin like that, does everything to do with the car and garden, cooks more often on weekdays, and does the same or tbh possibly more interacting with the DC than me (helping with homework, taking them out on trips, playing with them etc etc).

I work PT but more hours and much longer commute, I do all the clothes washing, dusting, change the beds, cook probably 3 evenings a week, do everything to do with the DC school admin, buy their clothes, plan their parties, play dates etc, pay bills and other life admin....I obviously also interact with the DC in the same ways as above!

Household split the same as the last 11 years we have been together; he does cooking, food shopping, cat food/litter and DIY/repairs. I do al cleaning, laundry and admin/organising.

I’m on mat leave so do the lion’s share of parenting. He plays with her after dinner (we eat early) while I get things ready for bedtime routine and also does one weekend morning (if not working - he’s doing a lot extra at the moment as I was a high earner before ML) so I get a lie in.

I return to work full time in July as a senior teacher so very full on. MIL will be doing childcare, and we’ll readjust the parenting load at home to more equal then.

Nothing to do with man vs woman, mum vs dad, it’s just how it works for us.

DH does the majority. He does all the laundry and ironing, cleans up the kitchen every night after I cook, all the hoovering, always changes the bed, 95% of the school runs, gets up with DS 6 days a week (I start work early). He reads with DS every day and sorts out homework.

I cook most nights and order the food shopping. I clean the bathroom more often. I get up with DS one weekend day so DH can have a lie in. I do the life organising and planning.

I work 40 hours a week + 6 hours commuting (over the whole week, not per day)

DH works 21 hours a week from home.