Please don't judge.
I have two LO's aged 4 and 2 and our youngest is very highly strung. She has always been very demanding even as a baby and has frequent meltdowns. Nothing behavioural, just one of those babies who likes attention and her way or the highway.
Anyway I went to collect my LO from school taking his younger sister with me and whilst waiting to collect him she started to act out. She was basically trying to run in to the assembly hall where they seat the kids whilst waiting to be picked up. The system is a little silly as the parents have to wait in a long narrow corridor to collect the children, so as you can imagine it becomes very cramped and chaotic.
I asked her more than once to stop trying to run off, for fear that she would get knocked down, and also for fear that the teachers / parents would judge me for 'not being able to handle my child'. As the children started to come out her behaviour continued and so I gently grabbed her arm to move her out of everyone's way, I then proceeded to pick her up and gently (very gently) tap her on the bottom, more to get her attention than anything, and told her to stop her tantrum.
Collected LO and that was that.
Fast forward to the following Monday and I get a phone call from SS accusing me of 'unnecessary chastising of a child'. I immediately called the HV who contacted them to state that there were no issues with my parenting etc. I also contacted the school as I felt it was very unfair of them to judge like that.
SS didn't take things any further and never even came out to see the kids they just called to say the case was closed!
This was around 6 months ago and every since them I've had terrible anxiety. I am constantly fearing that someone will report me again. If the kids are acting out and crying at home I fear someone will think I'm hurting them. I fear 'telling them off' while out in case someone feels I'm being unreasonable.
It has gotten so bad that I'm on medication.
Did I act wrongly?