Newborn

[Kawasaki12345]

Hi I have a 5 week old little girl who is absolutely gorgeous and in my eyes very well behaved but I was just wondering whether anyone else feels like having a new baby has turned their world upside down? We are getting out and about and feeding well etc but I'm so used to a structured routine and I wonder if it gets a little easier in time to come. I have a 9 year old little girl so I've done it all before but I don't remember. What age would you say things get easier with regards to feeling more in a routine

Congratulations!! I think it takes a few months tbh. Don't put pressure on yourself it's a massive upheaval. Be kind to yourself.

It took me a good couple of months to get back into a routine and feel "normal" again. Enjoy it and don't put pressure on yourself congratulations on your new baby!

I found it easier with the second as she just had to fit in with the older one's routine. She just fed wherever we were and napped in the buggy. However, there was only 2.8 years between them. With a bigger gap, I can see that not being quite so necessary with the older one at school for most of the day.

Congratulations! We didn't really have any structure until later on (about 3 months) when feeding and nap time became a bit more reliable.

We're almost 7 months in now, and still waiting to get a regular pattern.

BUT, we've had a terrible time getting our DS to sleep, literally for the first 6 months of his life DH and I didn't sleep in the same bed, firstly due to DS only sleeping on us for the first 3 months, and then 3 months of having to co-sleep. 6 months of no baby free time to just chill out the 2 of us. We weren't expecting night's out on the town dinner and dancing, but an hour each evening to have dinner and watch a bit of tv before an early night would have been bliss.

We're finally getting that and I feel so much more in control of my life!

I have an almost five week old and I'm in no way feeling 'normal' yet! A routine is starting to firm but it's not at all reliable, I'm not getting anywhere near enough sleep and we haven't been further than the local shops, everything feels quite overwhelming still. I'm definitely feeling better than the first couple of weeks, but not out of the haze yet!

This is my first so a bit different to you, but I think it's pretty normal.

I have a 4 week old and ftm and nothing resembling a routine at the moment. My life feels upside down going from a highly pressurised job, regular gym sessions and lots of sleep, to the complete opposite. I'm feeling overweight, lethargic and feel like I have nothing interesting to say to my husband as my days are all the same. I completely know things will improve and wouldn't change a thing but I wasn't prepared for how much life would be different.

I would say 8-10 weeks it gets a bit more predictable or at least you find your feet.

I think it is very variable, my first had a good routine from about 3 months, but my second took much longer (and not because she had to fit in with the first, as there is quite a large age gap between them) and was more like 6 months before I could give her feeds and naps a regular time.

Never bothered me as I am very go with the flow about it all, but I had friends who thrived on routine and found their little ones who had none a bit stressful until they settled.