When do you stop checking your Teen's phone?

[Hotpinkangel19]

Daughter is just 13, I currently do spot checks on her mobile now and again which she agreed to, but says her friends parents don't check theirs at this age.

She's telling you porkies.

Son is 13 and I do spot checks now and then too.

15

Mine are 12 and 15.
With the 15 year old now it’s only if something’s come up where I think I should take a look, with the 12 year old I have a look maybe once a week or so

Thanks! Will keep as I am doing then!

Oh! I never checked our son's...

I can confirm many of my friends do not check their kids phones, and they don't seem that 'fucked up'

And for DS 12 I only check if something is brought up by the school!

I don't have teenagers yet but at 13 I'd still be doing the odd check.

I’ve never checked her phone or computer think she was 10 when her Dad bought her one - now 17 - have never had any issues

My DD hasn't reached the phone age yet, but if ever i get her a phone, I will probably check regularly until she's 14/15 and then gradually let go, if there are no alarms of predators/grooming/sexting/bullying/harassment/drugs/etc in those checks. :P

I don't know, but what i have been reading, there seems no end to the types of online 'threats' that can happen to kids these days.

I think at that age only do it if something is seriously not right or the school have raised concerns. My rule of thumb is “trust them till you can’t”

I check his phone but I don't tell him. I had another mom friend who checked her son's phone and let him know and he became sneaky so I do not want that to happen to me.

When they pay their own phone/internet bill

They know we do it for their own safety, and not to intrude.

Couple of times I've been glad we did!

God I wish my parents had checked my phone when I was a teenager. I was having an online "relationship" with someone in his twenties which was completely obscene. They had ABSOLUTELY no idea. Just saying, it can happen.

Maybe if parents did check their dc phones a bit they maybe able to spot them bullying someone and give them some guidance........

sending nasty shit and meme to people, encouraging others that X person should be isolated ect.....

your teens may now be fuck up, but they may have fucked up someone else.

it is so easy for teens to get swept up in peer presure and not realise what they are doing, yeah the get the anti bullying talks at school and stuff but they don't always relate this to what they are doing, because they are just having a laugh and it banta init.