Hi all. I met a lovely lady almost four years ago at at new baby group, we both had girls, 4 weeks apart. I didnt go to the group much but maybe 6/7 times.
When the girls were about 18m she got in touch and asked if I'd like to meet up. I said yes and we chatted and arranged. The day of said meet up she cancelled. And she's been doing this ever since. The girls are nearly 4 now and I've maybe met up with her 5 times in all this time but with nearly monthly meet ups arranged that she cancels.
It's really frustrating. I really like her; I think we get on well and if I'm honest I think she suffers with social anxiety which is why I haven't sacked her off completely but I'm getting really sick of the whole thing
Another problem is that her daughter is nothing like mine. I'm not trying to be mean, I fully accept that this says more about my child then hers considering they're 4 but her child is chaos. My Dd is so well behaved and kind and shares plays lovely but her daughter will start a play date being nice talking about how they're best friends but after 30 mins she won't share and is mean to my dd and has gone as far as pushing her. My daughter doesn't want to see her anymore and I can totally see why she wouldn't. Her mum is terrible at discipline
However this mum just keeps on wanting to meet up and I'm not the kind of person to ignore someone and lie. My husband keeps telling me to make up excuses but I'm not good at that.
I am now at the point of thinking she's not my responsibility to be nice to as one of her only mum friends but I hate the idea of someone having no friends. The last two times she's bailed I've just gave a short reply and not tried to continue any conversation but she just messages again a few days later to arrange.
What should I do?