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Going on hol without DD, sudden panic - EEK!

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Fizog · 09/09/2004 13:22

Tell me to pull myself together - I'm about to go on holiday without DD. I've been fine up until now but all day today I've been feeling really aprehensive and I suddenly really don't want to go.

I know I'm being silly but it's horrible, I've never left her alone for so long and gone so far away. What if she thinks I'm never coming back... what if she's hurt or upset or needs me, I won't be there... silly I know, I really hope I don't feel like this once I'm there I need a holiday and want to enjoy myself.

I'm being stupid aren't i... tell me I am.

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Cadbury · 09/09/2004 13:26

Errrr .. pull yourself together? She will be fine. I presume she is going to stay with a relative, friend or someone else with a bit of nouse?

AussieSim · 09/09/2004 13:31

How old is your DD? How long are you going for? I went to Chicago for 4 dazs when DS was 16mo. He was with his Dad and he still managed to survive none the worse for the experience.

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Fizog · 09/09/2004 13:45

Thank-you

She's a little over 2 and I'm going for a week. She's staying with my parents who she adores and she is used to staying at their house for 1-2 nights at a time.

She doesn;t have much concept of time but enough to know a long time and a little while. I've explained that mummy is going on holiday and won't see her for 7 sleeps. I've told her that she is going on holiday to nanna's house, which she seems quite happy about.

I've made her a sticker chart so she can put stars on every morning and night til I get back

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TeriS · 09/09/2004 13:53

Hi, when I went away on honeymoon for a week in June I left my DS with my mum (he's 20 months). He was fine - he sulked for about an hour when I got back, and was then really cuddly for the rest of the day, but apart from that was fine.

In fact, I think I was more upset when I got back, at the thought that he had coped so well without me!

I was also dreading going, and felt really guilty, but once I got away, I really enjoyed it, and was surprised how well I coped without him! It helpded, as we were in a different place, that I've never been to with DS anyway, so it didn't seem so strange he wasn't there.

slug · 09/09/2004 13:55

We left the sluglet with the blessed inlaws for a week when she was 7 months old (bad parents!)

To tell the truth, I never missed her till it was time to go home. (bad..BAD parent)

tammybear · 09/09/2004 14:43

Last week I was on holiday with dp. Dd (21months) stayed with my mum, and I was just away a week in Crete. Its the longest Ive been away from her, and I remember the moment the plane landed, I started filling up with tears as I realised I was in a whole different country to dd My dd didnt seem to miss me at all whilst I was gone, and I kept myself busy whilst I was away as our rep had days planned out so there was very little time for me to get homesick. Try not to worry so much fizog, if she's anything like my dd, she'll be too busy to wonder where you've gone as Im sure your parents will be making the most of her. Have a great time!!

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Fizog · 09/09/2004 15:25

Thanks guys, feel much better now. I think I'll be fine once I'm there it's just goin to be leaving her and knowing that she's going to think I'll be back in the m orning like usual

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Bibiboo · 09/09/2004 15:43

Can I hijack this thread? I was 11 weeks pg when I got married in March (ooops!) so we ahven't had a proper honeymoon yet and are planning to take it for our 1st anniversary, when the baby will be about 5-6 months. We were planning somewhere exotic, far away and hot, but couldn't subject a 6mo to a 10 hour flight, extreme heat and the boredom of being on a beach all day. On the other hand, I don't know if I'd want to go without him/her and whether people would think I'm an awful parent. Reading this thread has made me feel a bit better about possibly leaving baby for a week, but 2 weeks seems far too long ... any suggestions or advice?

Thanks x

TeriS · 09/09/2004 15:48

Hi Bibiboo! I was in the same situation - DS came along before the wedding, so we couldn't automatically go for the 'usual' honeymoon. I thought 2 weeks was too long to leave DS too, so me and DH had 1 week away on our own, and then the 2nd week at home with DS.

BTW, initially I was going to take DS on honeymoon with us, but just decided we needed some time on our own - and same issues with flight/ heat for DS.

Hope that helps
TS

oiseau · 09/09/2004 16:51

I left my DS for a week when he was 8 months - actually ended up to be 9 nights what with dropping him off day before we flew and picking up day after we got back. Anyway he was absolutely fine - actually found it easier leaving him when he was that small than leaving him for weekends now (16 months). It doesn't matter whether people think you are a bad mother or not - you know you aren't/won't be!

and Fizog - you are being stupid - she will be fine and have a ball at nanna's, go and enjoy it! I think the sticker thing is a great idea.

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