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Guilty for where I am sleeping

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sandytoesandsaltykisses · 18/03/2019 21:16

Hi everyone, we’ve just moved into a converted bungalow which has one (our) bedroom upstairs and 2 downstairs. My DD’s who are 3 and 8 (v nearly 4 and 9!) are in one of the downstairs rooms and the other one is for my step children who stay sometimes.
I love the new house and so do my girls but my Mum is making me feel incredibly anxious about sleeping a floor above my girls. She says she couldn’t do it because she’d worry too much that she was on a different level to them.
The front door is locked so they can’t get out (keys near for emergencies) and I’ve even set up the baby monitor again so I can hear what they’re up to!
The bathroom is right next to them so they don’t have to worry about stairs at all and they tend to yell if they need anything major.
I’m now having trouble sleeping in case something happens (I don’t know what!) but my Mum has put the fear of God up me!

Any other separate floor sleepers who could put my mind at rest please?

Thank you

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moreismore · 18/03/2019 21:19

my sister and I slept in an attic bedroom as children. We both lived It sounds like you have covered every eventuality. The only thing would be smoke alarms... are they wired? I.e. if one is tripped downstairs will it sound upstairs? But that really is trying to come up with a problem!

SoyDora · 18/03/2019 21:22

Until about 18 months ago we lived in a three story house, we were on the top floor and the DC (younger than yours) were on the middle floor. Didn’t occur to me to be worried to be honest! Like you we had a monitor and I always heard when they woke up.

LovingLola · 18/03/2019 21:22

I think your mother may have an issue with the fact that your young children are on the ground floor and you are upstairs. I would feel the same ..
Is there any way you could switch around until they are older?

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Knackeredmommy · 18/03/2019 21:23

Im in a townhouse, im on the ground floor, my 2 children are 2 floors above me. I did worry at first but it's fine. They're asleep before I go to bed, so I check in on them before I go downstairs. They're next to the bathroom and it's a house! I hear them in the morning or if they go to the loo. I'm glad it's me downstairs thOugh.

HJE17 · 18/03/2019 21:24

My neighbour lives in a very tall but skinny house. She’s on a separate floor from her 2-year old DS, and a separate floor again from her 3-month-old DD! (That last bit baffles me somewhat as it must be SUCH a hassle going up and down the stairs to breastfeed through the night). She’s a lovely mum and her two kids are thriving. What exactly do you expect to happen? As long as nasty kitchen & toilet chemicals are locked away and the kids can’t wander out, I don’t think you really need to worry...

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sandytoesandsaltykisses · 18/03/2019 21:27

Thank you guys. I didn’t want to put them upstairs as my 3 year old would then have to navigate the stairs in the dark to go to the toilet. We are in a very rural (middle of nowhere!) location so I’m not too bothered that they’re downstairs in case of intruders (we have huge houses up and down the lane, they wouldn’t burgle us ) it’s purely being on a separate floor

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WhatNow40 · 18/03/2019 21:28

We have our master bedroom in a loft conversion with DS on the floor below. Monitor set and he shouts if he needs us. Nothing wrong with your set up at all.

Palace13 · 18/03/2019 21:29

You're doing nothing wrong

WeShouldBeFriends · 18/03/2019 21:33

I would worry about 1) intruders 2) sleepwalking out the front door but not about being on a separate floor to you. Mine sleep on the floor above us. Now I worry about fire

SherlockSays · 18/03/2019 21:46

We also live in a bungalow - 2 bedrooms downstairs and 2 upstairs. There's DH, myself and DD and so we're using the downstairs bedrooms as I wouldn't want to be on a different floor to her. However, our house is odd and it's actually a corridor, stairs and 2 doors between the downstairs and upstairs bedrooms.

If DD wants to move upstairs when she's older that's fine but I personally don't want to have her downstairs on her own.

My friend lived in a bungalow growing up and her parents were upstairs, she loved it.

SherlockSays · 18/03/2019 21:47

I meant 1 bedroom upstairs, not 2.

I also worry that DD's bedroom is the first on the corridor too though so I'm probably quite an irrational person to ask!

whitehalleve · 18/03/2019 21:54

I'd feel the same way as your mum.

BackforGood · 18/03/2019 22:01

Ours have slept on a different floor from us since we moved into this house (youngest was just under 2).
All seemed to have survived into adulthood.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 18/03/2019 22:09

I'm on a different floor to my DCs. It did feel really weird at first, but we all got used to it. The only issue we have had so far was that DS1 got into Enid Blyton and because he could get to the kitchen without waking us, convinced DS2 to join him in the kitchen for a 'midnight feast'

nespressowoo · 18/03/2019 22:11

I wouldn't like to be on a different floor as I would worry about fires/intruders/them getting up to no good.

dreamyflower · 18/03/2019 22:21

I would feel the same, I think of they're on the top floor and you're on the bottom then it isn't so bad but I would be petrified of intruders. Saying that, I still have my toddler and baby in our room even though they have own bedrooms so I may just be very paranoid! But I sleep easier knowing they're with me and my toddler (under 2) still co-sleeps with us.

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