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MumBeau · 17/03/2019 19:09

I just want some reassurance that I’m not doing everything wrong. I have always been someone who likes routine and control and so being a new mum has come as quite a shock to the system. Our little girl was doing brilliantly and was sleeping through the night but the last couple of weeks everything seems to have changed. I’m not sure if she is teething or what it is but some nights I can be up 6 or 7 times soothing her back to sleep. On top of that I don’t feel we have any kind of nap routine and it’s making me feel like a failure. She never wakes up at the same in the morning and I did try to wake her up at the same time every day but then she either wakes up earlier and wants to go straight back to sleep or she spends the day yawning and being tired. I just feel like I’m doing it wrong. I’ve read every article out there about sleep. She only seems to like to sleep in the dark in her room but never longer than one sleep cycle. If she falls asleep in the pram or car she wakes up as soon as it stops so sometimes I either act like a crazy woman singing loudly to stop her falling asleep before we are home or driving round to let her get a good sleep. I feel like my day is just constantly worrying about naps and there is never enough of a window to get out the house because if she falls asleep for even five minutes she then doesn’t want to to nap. By 6pm she is shattered and often falls asleep before her bottle and will then wake after one sleep cycle and have it and then go back off with the fun and games starting anywhere between 10:30pm and 1am. I feel like a complete failure and the NCT group of mums all seem to be doing amazing and I’m the only one that is a mess. My partner is so supportive but I feel guilty that I’m upset and that I hate him going to work. Am I the only one struggling? Sorry for massive waffle.

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Jackshouse · 17/03/2019 19:12

It all sounds very normal to me. How old is your DD?

MumBeau · 17/03/2019 19:14

She is 22 weeks old.

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Jackshouse · 17/03/2019 19:19

I found this stage until 6/7 months the worst and my DD is now nearly 3 yrs.

It may for may not be for you but I started cosleeping and there was a huge improvement for us.

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