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Ex left 2.5 yr old on Asda alone while went

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TinaT71 · 16/03/2019 13:37

By chance I was going to Asda ehen my ex came behind me from car park crossing road in saying our sin was in there...I said he with...he said reading books!!!!
I was expecting to see him with someone but he had left him alone what do i do.
There is an abusive controlling ex narsacistic past. He will never listen to me.or anyone for that matter. Contact is short and managed by me sue to ongoing issues...
What should I do?
Help please

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TemporaryPermanent · 16/03/2019 13:39

How old is your son?

Go and see him and sit with him if you can. Take time to think.

Bunnybigears · 16/03/2019 13:41

Had ex finished the shopping? Or had he just gone to get a trolley and was going back for DS before doing the shopping? The length of time he was left for makes a difference in this scenario.

bobstersmum · 16/03/2019 13:41

Wouldn't let him have him again.

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TinaT71 · 16/03/2019 13:42

The is 2 and half
His dad took him with him not due home for 20 mins

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TinaT71 · 16/03/2019 13:43

He went outside over to car park to get a nappy from his car!!!

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mando12345 · 16/03/2019 13:44

I would report to the police and social services to have it on record, then for him only to have supervised access.
Sorry im not an expert in this field but that yes what I would do.

BollocksToBrexit · 16/03/2019 13:45

He left your 2.5 year old in the supermarket on his own, while he was off somewhere else across the road? Is that right? If it is then I'd never let him have him unsupervised again.

LarryGreysonsDoor · 16/03/2019 13:47

Let me get this straight.
He left a 2.5 year old alone in Asda on a Saturday, so a busy time, while he went to the car?

He would not be having my child again

Bunnybigears · 16/03/2019 13:57

Oh he left him in Asda I thought he had left him in the car! I would be neutral when he drops him off later but on Monday seek some advice about how you can prevent this in future I.e supervised visits only etc

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TinaT71 · 16/03/2019 14:04

I am literally shaking! In shock...son is just back we don't commuicate at all.....he was sue yo have him 3xtra tomorrow and Monday but I am going to cancel that now will phone police see what they say and speak to solicitor Monday.
Just chatting with son now he said also while having a vague chat about today that he left him in Funky Monkeys to go do a pre per and he couldn't find him. I know this may not be 100% but likely considering!!!
Total shock!
Thank you for your support....

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TinaT71 · 16/03/2019 14:04

Sorry for horrendous typos!

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user1496701154 · 16/03/2019 16:03

Am not in this situation but I'd definitely get soical services for the welfare of your child. I don't blame you shaking if be thinking like you od imagine worst case scenario. Major hugs for your ordeal

Ellapaella · 16/03/2019 17:02

I can't really work out what you're saying happened op as there are so many typos. Are you saying your ex has left your 2 year old unattended on two separate occasions?

Thesearmsofmine · 16/03/2019 17:05

Jesus, my son wouldn’t be going anywhere with him again.

DippyAvocado · 16/03/2019 17:06

OP says ex took her DS to Asda and left him alone in the book section while he went outside to the car park to get a nappy from the car.

MissMalice · 16/03/2019 17:08

I would call social services and I’d also speak to the store manager and ask them to keep a copy of the CCTV in case social services need to see it.

Ellapaella · 16/03/2019 17:12

Right and then left him on his own in soft play? OP that's really serious, you mustn't let him look after him again unattended. This must be so worrying for you!

Samind · 16/03/2019 17:14

Yes OP says ex left DS in asda while he went to get a nappy from car and left him at funky monkeys play centre alone so he could go to the toilet according to DS. That's bad though doing that

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TinaT71 · 17/03/2019 11:59

Thank you for your support. Asda don't record incidents and Cctv only released to police I have learnt. Called Police so it's logged and will call both solicitor and social services Monday morning. Needed it recorded as ex will totally deny it and twist the.truth.
Looks like it will need to be supervised contact? What way will rhis work as I don't imagine social services do this long term do they? Do they then let him.revert back to having him again?
I don't look forward to the retaliation......

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Binglebong · 17/03/2019 12:09

Still ask Asda to keep the footage as police may want to see it. You're not asking to see it yourself so should be fine.

FizzyGreenWater · 17/03/2019 12:21

Push this as far as you can - police, SS.

Personally I would let him take you to court for access after that and take it from there. He may not bother.

Definitely tell ASDA to keep the footage and tell them that you have said to the police that you are requesting footage kept.

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