My ex partner wants to split school holidays

[Moma94]

Hi could really do with some advice. I've had a lot of hassle from my ex partner since we broke up in 2017. He has dragged me through court, made allegations that I harm our daughter to try and have full residence of her, retracted his statement then when he was found out to be a big drug user and lost unsupervised contact, is trying to have our daughter change schools and take her away from her friends and now we are going back again because he wants to split the school holidays in half. My little girl is three years old and suffers from separation anxiety from
Either of us. The proposal he has made to the court is that he would like her to live with him for a majority of two-three weeks of the summer holidays without seeing me. I have another baby who is twelve weeks old who she adores and he also has another daughter who is ten which she adores. I don't think this would be right for my daughter to not see me her father or her siblings for such a length of time! She is very small and loves us and I'm afraid it would harm her emotional wellbeing. I need to make a statement as to why she shouldn't stay away from either of us for such a time and could really use advice on what to put or how to go against it. Sorry for rambling on I'm very fed up and can't bare the thought of not having contact with my LG for that amount of time. Thanks in advance! Xx

Would it be feasible to do a week on a week off type of arrangement? It sounds like you've had a rough time of it so sending hugs.

It's sad to be going to court about this before she has even started school. At 4/5 I agree she shouldn't be away for more than a week. I would propose three separate weeks, which would change to 2 weeks and 1 week when she's about 8. Would he even be able to get 3 consecutive weeks off work or does he not work?

He is a taxi driver so school holiday is his holidays. He has dragged me through so much even went to the extent of destroying an old vehicle he had bought me after I returned it and posted about it on Facebook claiming I had done it then had the police onto me. He's tried to run me over during handover when I was pregnant and carrying our daughter that's why there is a third person contact now at handover and he's also trying to push for contact with me again

Does he have any over nights now?

How can he be taking you to court to have your DD for half the school holidays when he doesn't even have unsupervised access?

Another drugs test was taken 3 months after the initial test and supervised contact started. It showed cocaine in his system but the level of substance being taken had reduced. Caffcas were involved and came to do a well fair report and advised the court that they feel under the circumstances that it has shown to reduce and that he doesn't take any drugs 24 hours before having our daughter then they see it fit for him to have overnight contact. This was submitted on the 31.1.19. Since then he has made a application to the court for our daughter not to learn in Welsh education under the circumstances that he doesn't speak Welsh him self. I am fluent Welsh speaking and always promoted the use of Welsh at home throughout my daughters life and she is now bilingual. She currently attend a Welsh preschool which I have paid myself to encourage her to make friends and settle better when she starts nursery as she is shy and doesn't settle well in an unfamiliar setting. She is set to start nursery in a Welsh primary in may and am currently battling for her to go. I received his statement that was supposed to be about the issues regarding her education but he has added a load of demand on what he wants. His demands are that our daughter lives with him during a period of time (2-3weeks) of the summer holidays, during Easter holidays and another term holiday. I don't want this to happen. Her routine ATM are
Tuesday- teatime visit
Thursday- over night
Sunday-overnight
I believe this should continue through summer holiday as my daughter becomes distressed and misses either of us also I don't think I could cope being away from
Her for that lengths of time

I think at her age routine is so important - I'd be surprised if any court would want to change it as drastically as saying 2-3 weeks in one place! But a longer visit once or twice a year so he could take her away with her sibling or something would be more reasonable, I don't really know how the court system works in these situations (I expect I will though) but if you can suggest alternatives you are happier with it would show you are not just trying to keep then apart or something which he might argue you are doing, going by what he's done so far!