Baby won’t sleep unsupportive parents.

[Ponchie]

I’m sorry, I feel like i just need to rant.
My husband is away with work all week so my parents invited me to stay with my 7 week Old baby to help out, great.
My baby’s won’t sleep while we’re here and I’m in hour 5 of try to get her to sleep. She’s currently Crying in my arms after wriggling around her cot. She’s been awake for approximately 7 hours and counting.
My father quite clearly doesn’t want us here, is grumpy and quite frankly making me feel uncomfortable. She isn’t keeping him up at night as I can hear them both snoring in the next room.
I cried on Monday night and last night through sheer exhaustion, nothing dramatic but asked my parent to take her for an in the morning so I could try and at least get an hours sleep before they went to work.
Because of this my mother said I’m not coping and need to see my GP. My mother doesn’t show any emotion ever and because I dare to have shown any she thinks there’s something wrong with me. Even before my baby was born she got some books off the social works at work for PND. I feel like she wants there to be something wrong with me. I’m absolutely furious and insulted by this.
Why invite me to stay and make me feel uncomfortable and inadequate?
I just wish my husband was here with me.

Can you not take the baby home? No point being there if your parents are making it worse and maybe baby will sleep better when you are both more relaxed in your own house!

I would if I could get the crib in my car but it won’t fit and she won’t sleep anywhere else

I’m really sorry you’re going through this.
Just practically speaking, have you tried tiger in a tree hold and rocking? That might settle her. There is a big leap at this age which I remember caused my DS to stop any semblance of sleep!
Does she settle any better if you co sleep? A dummy?

Perhaps it is worth speaking to your HV tomorrow, just to see if she has any other tips or support available, it’s torture when your babies don’t sleep.

Can you go home tomorrow? X

She will settle in my arms but as soon as I put her down she will scream and her dummy doesn’t soothe her. I don’t think I’d feel safe co-sleeping with her either. She’s my first baby and I worry about hurting her in bed with me.
I hope this doesn’t last long, the exhaustion is killing me

You need to leave. I don't understand your point about the crib. If you got it there why can't you bring it back?

Because my father brought it in his large car. I do not have a large car.

I’m not going to wake my parents up at 2am and demand they take the crib to my house

Nobody is suggesting that you leave at 2am but you do need to get home. Can you go home tomorrow. Do you have a partner?

I understand your fear of falling asleep holding the baby but remember it's better to plan for Incase that happens as it inevitably will, than to fall asleep on say a sofa or chair without any safeguards.

While your baby is in this phase though you need to work in shifts with someone. So while your husband is away will your mum or dad help with that? Ignore your mothers judgement and accept the help. I don't know if you're BF or FF, if bottles then one person does one half of the night and the other the second. If BF maybe during one half the person brings baby to you for feeds only and holds rest of the time

Everything is a very phase, it will pass.

I am well aware that I need to go home and will be doing exactly that tomorrow. In my previous post I said my husband is away with work.

My parents would never help at night! They were put out that I asked them to take her for an hour in the morning (they get up 2.5 hours before they need to leave for work!!!)
Normally my husband gets up early with her before work and takes care of her while I try and sleep.

Ok, we've all been here. Are you BF? Or bottle? When did she last pop? Has she wind or tummy ache? Gently bicycle her legs and rub her tummy in circles to see if there is poo. Then put her down and let her cry while you make yourself a nice warm drink of something soothing....chamomile tea? If it wakes your parents - so be it. Your daughter is now picking up on your stress. If your parents ask what's going on just calmly explain she hasn't slept for hours and you needed a drink....they can either roll over and go back to sleep or get up and help. Now, sit and have your drink and cuddle the baby. Today maybe she is going to be up all night then you can both sleep tomorrow. At some point tomorrow you can go home.....even if you have to leave your big cot at your mum's....pop into boots/Tesco etc and buy a travel cot. Don't stress about baby waking your parents.....they do remember....they have just forgotten what it's like. And they did invite you.

She doesn’t have wind, isn’t constipated and just had another full feed and she’s still awake.
I’m so fed up of this.
She’s been awake since 6pm, I don’t understand how she can go so long without sleeping at 7 weeks.
Is there something I’m missing? She’s not agitated

She's probably picking up on your stress. Have you got your pram with you? I'd maybe try rocking her in the pram back and forwards.

And for what it's worth, I think your in the hardest part now. Initial adrenaline of having a baby has worn off and it feels like you'll never sleep again. Just try and remember that day and night don't really matter to your baby right now, she'll fall asleep eventually and that's when you can too.

My babies (ive had three) have all liked being rocked quite briskly. I've been known to go for a walk in the middle of the night because the fresh air definitely seems to make a difference. I also think a bath helps.

Also, Ive found being anywhere other than my house unbearable since having children. I like to be where all my stuff is and think being at someone else's house is just additional stress that you probably don't need right now.

This is a phase and it will pass.