is this way of helping DD (reading, homework etc) going to knock her confidence ?

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DP has been doing some reading with dd who is in reception. She is just learning to read and write and is doing well says her teacher, in the top groups. Dp will get her to do some reading of her book and some days she just isn’t into it and doesn’t concentrate well so Dp gets visibly annoyed and tells her he will take points off her reward chart if she doesn’t concentrate, today I saw him say ‘ I give up, let’s not bother, you obviously don’t want any extra points for good reading’. Is that passive aggressive?? Will this damage her confidence. I’m thinking of talking to him about it. Any ideas on how to help dd concentrate or is it just standard for a reception age child? Many thanks

yes it could damage her confidence and make her give up so as not to be treated in that way. Try books with characters she likes and perhaps do the reading with her yourself not him.

They're still so little in reception. DD1 is in reception, and sometimes she doesn't want to read. If it been a few days of not wanting to we might encourage her more, but otherwise if she says no the book goes away. No point making a big issue of it, might end up switching her off to learning altogether. If they associate learning with fun, that is likely to stay with them and promote a love of learning rather than it being a chore.

I don't think it's passive aggressive. It won't woek though. You can't bribe or punish someone into being interested in something. You're either engaged or your not.

She's far too little to have that pressure put on her. Id she's not into it, leave it and come back to it later/another day. If she's doing well, then she's obviously getting enough practise for now.

My youngest ds is similar - i dont push it tbh of hes not in the mood.

What i tend to do is read to him and point out some words I know he can read and/or decode or i pretend i dont know a particular word and get it wrong so he corrects me.

Quite surprised at the top groups in reception, age 4-5 they don't even need groups. I'm not in UK and kids go to school here much later so I couldn't even contemplate teaching a child to read at 4-My oldest coming up for 6 and now showing an interest, year ago he couldn't possibly have sat still for long enough.

Oh and whatever the age your husbands method is wrong.