10 year old dd planning kiss w friend

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My 10 year old daughter left her messages on roblox open and when I sat down to use the computer I saw her conversation with her best friend another 10 year old little girl and they are planning to going to the toilets together at break time tomorrow and kissing for the first time.

The fact that she's interested in other girls doesn't bother me. What does bother me is that she's only 10. She's my baby sad i don't want her kissing anybody.
not yet anyway

I don't know how to approach this subject with her. I don't want to embarass her or shame her.

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Don't tell her you've read the messages. It'll probably all be very innocent not a full on snog. It's her best friend, who would you like her to kiss for a first kiss? Someone she already has a nice relationship with or would you rather she waited until she was much older then got drunk and snogged someone she didn't know at a party?

i will never understand why some people feel the need to be rude or make smart ass remarks to complete strangers looking for some real advice.

I thought that was a perfectly good response actually, and raised a fair point.

I was 11. Not much older.

Was there a comment deleted? That first response was a really good one!

I don’t see the rudeness either and agree with pp. They’re just kids. It’s harmless. Doesn’t mean she’s gay or bi or will be doing anything more anytime soon. They’re just curious and trust each other.

Nothing rude about county's reply.

Sorry, re reading I see it looks like I think it would be a problem if she were gay. It wouldn’t. I just meant that this means literally nothing and you shouldn’t talk to her or overthink it.

I think it's fine really - it will only be a little peck similar to how children of a nursery age kiss each other. It's quite sweet - they may just want to see what all the fuss is about I don't think the first poster was rude at all, and actually had a good response.

That wasn't a rude message op. That's exactly my thoughts about being curious. First kiss was 11 and horrible and ALL tongue which I had no clue what to do with 😂 cringing about it now that the topics being brought up 😂 innocence of youth op and just wanting to experiment. Your baby is curious about these things. So don't be sad! She's just growing up a tiny bit

What count and others said.

What immediately comes to mind is that I had my "first kiss" at age 10. I basically ambushed a boy I was friends with and planted a smacker on his mouth, just because I was curious what it was like and my friends kept talking about kissing. It was a bit disappointing - he looked like a startled rabbit in the headlights, and we never referred to the incident again .

My second kiss was over 10 years later, when I finally got my first actual boyfriend. We've now been married 25 years. So that premature kiss certainly wasn't the start of a slippery slope into full-on promiscuity!

I guess I'm saying please don't panic. It's not abnormal for a 10yo to be curious about kissing and it would be easy to make her feel ashamed. Maybe just look for an opportunity to have a bit of a chat about healthy relationships and keep the lines of communication open in case she wants to talk to you about anything.

I suppose alot can be lost or gained through text. Maybe the way I read it in my head sounded rude or patronizing.

I dont think you should talk to her about it at all as it sounds perfectly normal and harmless. I think the majority of people experience their first kiss at around this age! I did and that was over 20 years ago!
I'd be alarmed if it were with someone older... but this two kids the same age. I really dont think you have anything to worry about here to be honest.

My DS is 10 and kissed his 'girlfriend' at the disco recently. It was a peck on the lips and they haven't done it again since! Chill out, it's fairly normal at that age.

Stupid autocorrect.

You need to be careful about what information you put out there about your daughter, btw.

isnt kiss chase quite normal at this age? She sounds curious op.

It’s nice to share her first kiss with someone she actually cares about and very sweet. Just because we don’t want our children to grow up doesn’t mean the won’t and they are developing sexual beings as you where. Let her be is my advice and don’t say you read it.

Sorry Cafe didn't mean to sound rude.

I think this is sweet too. I remember meeting my best friend in the school lol for a kiss. We planned it at break time It was just playing and practice. It doesn't mean anything about her sexuality and it's certainly not sexual

I'm with Count on this, her response was sensible and really understanding