5 year olds tantrums getting worse!

[Drinkandknowthings]

I’m lost. Today my 5 year old had a screaming crying tantrum in M&S over a ‘ballerina bunny’ teddy. She saw it, grabbed it and declared she loved it more than anything. When I said she couldn’t have it (as I literally yesterday cleared a bag of teddies from her room that she never plays with) she started screaming, crying, shouting begging to have it. I tried to get her on the escalator and she ran off to the tedddy and then tried to run off with the teddy. I grabbed her, got the teddy off of her and finally got her out of the shop. She wailed all the way home in the car (for a 25 minute drive!). As we almost reached the house she started screaming to go back, which really frightened the 2 year old.

I had to physically lift her out of the car as she was refusing to get out and she screamed all the way into the house. She got sent to her room.

She’s obviously not getting the bunny. What else do I do??

She’s never been this bad before. She’s had tantrums but this is only the second one in public (the other one was in New Look over socks!).

I felt like crying myself on the drive home.

She’s acting like nothing has happened now.

Keep doing what you're doing, say no, get down to her level and say no and carry on with your day. Let her kick off let her scream and until she can accept you saying no without kicking off, I personally wouldn't buy her a teddy from a shop until then :) honestly I've gone through/going through difficult 5 year old stage with my daughter, she's stopped kicking off and just nags now which I ignore also 😅

I was wondering if there is a resurgence of tantrum-like behaviour in 5 year olds! Mine has started making a big fuss about leaving anywhere, like the park, friends house etc. Reminds me of her 2 year old phase and it's taken me by surprise!
I put it down to school tiredness, and lashing out after being a bit more regimented in school.
Sounds like you did all the right things, and what I would have done. Here for solidarity

I’ll take all the solidarity I can take. A woman tried to get involved in today’s tantrum. She was saying something like ‘ do you want to come with me?’ But DD was already screaming no no no and trying to run off so I kinda didn’t get to figure out what she was trying to do!!

Im eating my dinner with tears in my eyes.

DD5 is in bed already. I have had it since the second she got in the car at school

Its like a power struggle all the time. I hate it.

I could scream.

slangback that’s it. I feel like I’m constantly ‘managing’ her to prevent an outburst. Today was the worst in public but we have lots in private too.