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How much help do you get from your partner?

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ShanLLB · 13/03/2019 18:49

I have a beautiful baby girl who has just turned 6 months. I am still on maternity leave and go back to work in around 3 weeks on a part time basis. Just wondering how much partners help? I basically get no help at all from my partner - I cook, clean, wash, iron and look after baby majority of time do any night feeds but she sleeps through now. he works full time and works mon-fri day and a sat night. Which is a lot of hours he works hard and provides! I do find myself getting quite annoyed sometimes that I feel if I ever go out for a couple of hours and leave him with DD he doesn’t do anything or even when I’m there I could be running around doing everything and he never offers to do anything. The reason I’m asking how much others partners do is because I am wondering if I’m wrong to ask him to do more if he is working full time. Surely when I’m back part time he needs to help more? He has quite a few holidays planned for the next few month and has always been on nights out since us having her and I don’t have too much of a problem apart from when I brought it up tonight and said he can’t book anything else he was quite quick to be defensive. He’s just stressing me at the mo - I just feel like I just seem to do everything naturally and I have to actually ask him to do things. It’s annoying !

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NameChange30 · 13/03/2019 18:53

My husband doesn't "help me" with parenting and housework, because they're not just my job. He does (more than) his fair share of both.

HTH

Jackshouse · 13/03/2019 18:53

I did get ‘help’ because DH is an adult who pulled his weight at home and parented his child. You are looking at this the wrong the way if you think parenting and housework is all your responsibility.

It’s difficult with a child but you need to be in a situation where you have equal amount of down time.

Hiphopopotamous · 13/03/2019 19:55

TBH if he works mon-fri then sat night (and presumably has to rest prior to/after the night shift) he's probably exhausted too.
My DH does all the shopping and most of the cooking, I do washing, admin, tidying and we have a cleaner. We both work part time.

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Hiphopopotamous · 13/03/2019 19:56

(Once I went back to work we divided it up more evenly as above, on mat leave I did the majority since I was at home )

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