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Jealous of sibling?

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Tilliebean · 13/03/2019 11:41

I have two DDs (DD1 is almost 4, DD2 is 5m).

Obviously there was a lot of jealousy when DD2 arrived. This was compounded by losing my partner’s father when DD2 was 1m and we’ve been having a horrific time with some building works. It was meant to be done before the baby arrived, so DD1 hasn’t had a door on her room (or a full wall) for about 8 months. Just highlighting those things as it has wrecked her routine. Saying that for the last few months she said been great. She adores her sister.

DD1 has continued at nursery full time which we felt was best. She’s always loved nursery and it will hold her place at a popular nursery. I stay home with DD2 on mat leave.

In January both DD1 and later DD2 got chicken pox. So obviously DD1 had to stay home for a week. Since then she’s increasingly been keen on staying home. In the last 2 weeks it’s just gotten exponentially worse. She’s is crying about going to nursery, she has NEVER done. She loves nursery and has great friends. She loves the staff. So it’s hard to see her upset.

Both DP and I think it’s jealousy of DD2 being home with me. DD2 is that bit more interactive now so we think DD1 wants to be home and play! Obviously not realising DD2 still naps and cries loads...

Has anyone else experienced this? I’ve spoken to nursery and they agree with us. Just think it’s a phase. Funnily enough I told her she could stay off on Friday for a family birthday. She asked to go to nursery until lunch!

I realise her little world has been turned upside down and jealousy will come and go. It’s just hard to see, especially around something she’s always loved!

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aliceandkids77 · 13/03/2019 17:55

I know just how you feel OP! My DD1 is three and DD2 was born at the end of Feb.
Before going to nursery I try and pysch DD1 up about all the amazing things she's going to do!!! and how I'm going to be having such a bore at home. It usually works for me haha!
Also I try and give time for DD1 just her and me to make her feel special. Just a phase and DD1 is already coming out of it (I think....I hope). It is just so hard to see tho. Try and shower her in love!! good luck x

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