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Sleep deprivation & work

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PinkPolly283 · 13/03/2019 04:13

Hi Ladies,

I have an almost 1 year old that doesn't enjoy sleeping.
He's been up since 230 and is full of beans.
I have work in the morning and my alarm will be going off at 6.
I'm not sure what I want from this post to be honest, I'm just exhausted and need to vent!
Is there anyone that's going through this? Can anyone give me any coping tips?
I feel like I need to pack my job in but bills to pay and all that jazz, I really can't afford to.

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nowifi · 13/03/2019 09:54

I remember this very well, just do what you have to do to get through the day, even if it means 10 coffees or whatever!

Is he teething or waking up for a reason you think?

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PinkPolly283 · 13/03/2019 10:29

It could be, but He's never been a good sleeper to be honest. I can count on one hand the amount of times he's slept through. I just can't see light at the end of the tunnel at the moment.
I know he will sleep one day, might be months or years but I know he won't be crying to get in with me when he's 15 lol. I'm just so bloody tired 😴 thanks for replying to me moaning lol.

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user1493413286 · 13/03/2019 10:31

I have the same thing some days; I get by on chocolate and caffeine and going to bed straight after DD a couple of times a week. I genuinely don’t know how I get through the day sometimes but somehow I do

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PinkPolly283 · 13/03/2019 10:46

Yes, chocolate and coffee! Caffeine tablets have become a new thing as well.
I have a sinus and ear infection at the moment too so feeling a bit sorry for myself.
Why don't they like sleep, I'd love to be put to bed at 7 and told to sleep for 12 hours.

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VaselineOnToast · 13/03/2019 21:03

It's crap, isn't it?? I remember phoning in sick a few times because I just couldn't function after being woken 4-5 times a night. Bedsharing and breastfeeding helped me through the most difficult phases but I know sharing a bed isn't for everyone

Hollowvictory · 13/03/2019 21:05

Sleep training?

DelurkingAJ · 13/03/2019 21:07

So much sympathy from here. I drove to work and retrospectively shouldn’t have been driving. I was lucky as I could afford to wait until DC were nearly 1 and DH did his share of nights (we were also trying to night wean...).

But, yes, it’s rubbish. And I find people either have oodles of sympathy because they’ve had a non-sleeper or look at you as if you’ve grown an extra head.

NewAccount270219 · 13/03/2019 21:09

Just to check - you're a single mother, presumably? If so, is there anyone who could take him for a weekend afternoon so you can have a long nap?

Shahlalala · 13/03/2019 21:16

I have also come to sympathise. As with others I have no idea how I did it, also probably shouldn’t have driven either.
Coffee, cake and DH learning to calm DD at night without breastfeeding.

Shahlalala · 13/03/2019 21:16

No.2 is coming this year and i’m going to go part time, I feel I have been running on empty for quite some time now!

Wallsbangers · 13/03/2019 21:19

I could have written this, I'm in the same boat. I'm so tired and permanently sick. I have no advice, just wanted to join in.

MsRosewater · 13/03/2019 21:24

I feel your pain as I'm in the same boat!! DD (15/12) has never slept through! Shes EBF and falls asleep on the boob so DH no good! My brain has been replaced with candy floss and my career is in the crapper as I can't make a plan or decision which is a problem as a manager and the breadwinner

So all in all no advice from me but heaps of sympathy.,.

Cakeandmarshmallows · 13/03/2019 21:24

I'm not ban at work yet, nearly, but my little one still does not sleep through the night and I am getting worried about it!! Following to offer sympathy and to look out for any tips!

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PinkPolly283 · 14/03/2019 07:38

Thanks for the sympathy ladies! Sympathy right back at you all
Yesterday was terrible, I ended up taking my mother in law to a shop and nearly fainted where I was so tired. Sounds dramatic I know but I went really light headed and hot and had to get out the shop 🙈 probably don't help I'm a walking infection either.
I'm not a single mum, its just my partner sleeps like the dead, once he's gone he's gone -nice for some isn't it 🙄
I've tried sleep training, he sticks his middle finger up at it lol.

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ssd · 14/03/2019 07:47

Another one sending sympathy for you op, my 2 didn't sleep either I remember years of just being knackered. I took them in with me I was so desperate but the buggers refused to leave. I used to drive over to my mums they'd fall asleep in the car, she'd come out the house and sit in the car with them sleeping in the back, I'd go into her house, go to bed, immediately fall asleep but set my watch first for 40 mins, then it'd go off, I'd go back out to the car she'd go back in her house, I'd drive home and get a takeaway coffee on the way

Those wee naps must have kept me going, God love my mum doing that for me, she's gone now.

I hope you get through the day op.

NewAccount270219 · 14/03/2019 10:45

I'm not a single mum, its just my partner sleeps like the dead, once he's gone he's gone -nice for some isn't it 🙄

I really don't think that's ok, especially as you both work! Have a rota (we split the night at 2.30, so one of us takes all wake-ups before that and one all after and we switch each night) and wake him up for his turns - yes it'll mean you are both briefly awake but it's so much easier to go back to sleep if you don't get out of bed!

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PinkPolly283 · 14/03/2019 14:30

It's fine, I don't resent him for it. He works longer hours than me and has a manual job where if things go wrong someone could die. So I'd rather he not risk his life or other peoples due to tiredness just so I can get some sleep lol. I work in an office so I can sit and have a cry at my desk if I need to haha.
He helps out on weekends anyway, I catch up then

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 14/03/2019 14:35

thank god for coffee and sugar to get through on those days (less rare for me but still happens)- I make sure I try and go to bed at 8pm (LO down at 7pm) during those periods knowing Im exhausted and likely going to have another disturbed night. Sod the housework, cooking dinner or doing anything not 100% urgent.

Mivery · 15/03/2019 18:55

I would suggest possibly having a family member watch your LO overnight so you can catch up on your sleep. If no one can babysit for you, then you should take a day off to catch up on some much-needed sleep, and find a babysitter for the daytime.

Sleep deprivation is not something to be taken lightly. It's very dangerous for a number of reasons. Fatigue, depression, lack of motivation, forgetfulness, etc. are all effects of not getting enough sleep. Fatigue being the most dangerous since drowsy driving causes accidents all the time. This guide can help you learn more about sleep deprivation and has some good suggestions for getting yourself back on a healthy sleep schedule: www.mattressclarity.com/blog/ultimate-guide-sleep-deprivation/

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