How do you deal with aggressive and violent behaviour

[Downhillrider]

How do you deal with aggressive and violent behaviour?

My 12 year old daughter still has her moment and does hit me or chuck things at me. I tend to walk away from her.

My 8 year old daughter isn't aggressive toward me but she is toward her 12 year old sister and 5 year old bother how do you deal with siblings fighting?

Now where do I start with my 5 year old son! Daily I'm being told that my son has hit another child at school. At home if you say the wrong thing to him or even just touch him he will hit, kick, bite, head but and splits at you. I have tried the time out step but he doesn't stay there and will carry on, I've tried walking away he will follow you and I've tried putting him in his bedroom but he doesn't calm down and just trashes it. He's injured hisself many time during a rage.

oh dear this sounds very difficult. my children are younger so I don't have any specific advice but a couple of things i have found generally that work for me

1. children usually act out because they "need" something. this can be difficult to pin point but usually some positive parental attention can help. don't associate it directly with the bad behaviour of course.

1. I find punishments don't work well if implemented without a positive behaviour system in place along side.

1. I love a good book about anything I'm struggling with. have you thought about reading any parenting books? I found the supernanny books helpful for the little k

ones and how to talk books are good too; there's one on how to deal with siblings. there might be better ones out there on your specific issues.

Thank you I have the supernanny book and have been trying out things her way. My 5 year old isn't bothered about reward charts ect ect

what would motivate him? screen time? outing? treats?

We are currently in the process off being accessed for autism

ah well that puts a different slant on things. hope you get the help you need