We're you ready to become a mum?

[JcHcks]

So bit of background, I'm 31, just bought a house with my partner a few weeks ago and getting married in August. I've come off the pill in anticipation to start trying after we are married but I just don't feel ready yet. I think my age is controlling me a little bit, I'm know I'm not exactly old but I'm conscious it could take a long time to conceive and that I want more than one which a few years age gap in between. When you started trying did you know without a doubt you we're ready or are you never truly ready?

I'm 39. My kids are almost 6 and 3. I still do not feel ready to be a mum!!

I don't think you ever feel ready because even though you may really want a child/children your brain will throw in reason why maybe you shouldn't..

My advice is just do it and then u have 9 months to prepare

I was 35, had been with DH 12 years, had discussed children in a rather abstract way. Then one dear friend's 6th round of IVF failed and two other dear friends had breast cancer, it brought home that if we wanted children we should crack on.

We now have a 7yo. Planned on having one 'and see how we feel about dc2' - we stopped at one and got a dog.

We rent, we'll always rent, doesn't bother us in the slightest. We have no debt.

I had not been raised around children and still actually feel really awkward around babies and toddlers and other people's children.

I'm 32 and my daughter is 5 days old. The morning of my section I was in tears telling my DH that I still didn't want to have children (pregnancy was not entirely planned, but DH really wanted to have kids). I have never felt broody, or liked other people's kids, but I'm actually really ok with this so far. I still don't feel ready or old/mature enough to be a mother, mind. I guess people really are telling the truth about liking your own!

No.
I got married at 19, had first baby 10 months later, had another baby 17 months after that, and now I’m pregnant again 2.5 yrs after the second baby.
I still don’t feel like I’m “ready” to be completely in charge of the lives and wellbeing of three other human beings. It’s the scariest thing I’ve ever done!

I knew I was ready at about 27 or 28. Took a few more years for the baby to actually arrive. Just bear in mind that babies don’t always come when you want them to.

I was ready, just had to wait for my husband! If we'd have had a child in our late 20s/early 30s though I don't think we would have been though. I'd achieved a lot of my career goals, we'd travelled, got the house/car etc and I think I'm a better mum for being in my mid-30s and all the confidence that age keeps on bringing.