I cannot cope anymore

[AllStar14]

I have 3 children, DD4 and DT2 I'm a single parent and I can't cope anymore. DD is at school, I work but only part time so most of the time I'm at home with the twins. I don't know how else to say this but I hate being around them. I love them so much but I don't like being their mum. They are such hard work, I wake up and all I do is count the hours until bedtime again. They don't sleep through, they barely nap, they destroy everything, they climb and fall, they fight, throw toys, scream and cry. All fucking day. I just had to put them in their room and I can hear them destroying it.

Do you have any family that can help? If you really can't cope then call social services and get some help.

Being a single mother to twins is a really, really tough gig. Even more so with another child in the mix. You are thoroughly outnumbered. I had twins and was never happily confident on my own with them when they were young. You need as much adult support as can be mustered. Who can you call upon for support? Is there anyone you can help by providing company if they are lonely or whatever - thereby giving you some shared adult time and chat - even though you will still have the twins present, life can just feel that bit more civilised/normal when other adults are around. Wishing you the very best of luck.....

There is no one. I have friends and family but they are at work/have their own children and other commitments. I complain all the time, I fucking hate every second of everyday but I don't think anyone is listening.

Any toddler groups locally Allstar? Where I live there’s a club for parents of multiples.

Oh god love you, I cant imagine how stressed you are, i only have 1 and i have days where i just wanna leave and never come back. Its perfectly ok to feel like you cant cope, but you NEED to get some help, you cant look after your children if you dont look after yourself aswell. Can you afford to hire a babysitter to even look after them for a couple of hours during the week to give yourself a break?

I feel for you OP - it's tiring enough being a mum to any kids, let alone a single parent with young twins & an older child. I'd second what other posters have said though - look into any toddler & parent groups, church playgroups (you don't usually need to be a church go-er to attend)? Does your local children's centre do any play sessions? Somewhere you can go just for a cuppa & a bit of adult chat whilst your twins play?
Speak to your health visitor/ GP about how you're feeling in yourself as well - you need to make sure you're looking after your mental health. Do you have any friends/family locally who could look after the kids for a few hours whilst you go & do something for yourself - even if it's just going for a coffee with a magazine?
I believe there are spcicialist twin support networks/ groups - maybe you could google?
Sendig lots of love & best wishes your way.

Is the dad not in the picture at all? Could he help?
Check out Homestart, they offer a lot of services and support - could really help you even if just someone to come round for a couple of hours and play with the twins to give you a mental break x