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Child arrangements order not working

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AK91CH · 10/03/2019 16:16

To cut a very long story short. My daughter who is 8 has returned home from her Dad the last few weeks very unhappy and upset. Yesterday she burst into tears whilst we were out saying she is ruining her life, he is constantly making her unhappy even locking her in dark rooms to make her cry, constantly saying mean things about me and her step-dad, belittling her when he watches her doing any sports saying she is rubbish etc. All I want to know is if anyone has been in a similar situation? She is saying she doesn't want to see him again.
There is a history of domestic abuse here; she also complains of him being mean to his current girlfriend. Prior to child arrangements order there was a year period of no contact and before that it wasn't a set day etc and contact ended because she was refusing to go and he was being extremely abusive to me at handovers. Basically when the court order first began it was supervised contact and my daughter was happy but now that its unsupervised contact she is very unhappy. She even says she doesn't understand how he was nice in the place (referring to the contact centre) and now he isn't nice.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

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Posesinavase · 10/03/2019 17:27

Sounds awful for your dd. I have no experience but I'd suggest contacting social services for help.

Although this is also emotional abuse so I'd be tempted to go to the police but that could cause more stress to dd.

Ginger1982 · 10/03/2019 17:29

Can you take the matter back to court and explain how unhappy she is and ask for contact to revert back to supervised?

AK91CH · 10/03/2019 21:46

@Ginger1982 the problem with this is that unsupervised contact cannot be long term so it would eventually go back to unsupervised. I think I will contact social services tomorrow. My daughter is really adamant she doesn't want to go again due to all that's happening

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