nursery school want dd in pants - on Friday!

[allatsea]

dd is 2.5, and has just started nursery school. When I picked her up tonight the teacher asked if, when she came back on Friday, she could wear pants rather than nappies. We had an abortive attempt at potty training about a fortnight ago when dd would sit on the potty for 20 mins then stand up and pee on the carpet. What do you think I should do? Spend tomorrow (when the weather is meant to be lovely) toilet training again, or just leave nursery to deal with 100s of accidents.
Tips and advice please......

no coddy I know that some nursery schools do say that the child has to be potty trained but isn't that usually be 3? not 2 and half surely.

thinks...
my nephew was under three when this was said I thk
mind you he is 9 now!

I rememebr 5 pairs of trousers on day 5 !
bloody grim

Sorry, I am only repeating what others have said.
DD has Down Syndrome and is 3 in October. I am going through the stage now of finding out what needs to be put in place for her when she starts mainstream nursery.
The Headteachers answer to this question was that they COULD NOT refuse a child their right of education, simply because they were still in nappies. Saying that,when the nursery staff visited on Monday- they still asked if she could take herself to the toilet!!
By all means try what you can at home without any pressure, at the end of the day she will only do it when she is ready and when she wants to! I would also get her used to pull ups to give her a little bit more independance- to use as and when she wants it.
I had to rush ds into a playschool at 2.5 because I was having so many problems with newborn dd,he wasn't really dry. They too had the attitude- "it's not really ideal as facilities are so limited, but we will work around it."
It's an awful situation as it puts so many doubts in your mind- have you chosen the right nursery...?
Good Luck and stick to your guns!!

If I thought that she was ready I would use this as big insentive to really get cracking on it, in fact that was my first thought. But she really isn't ready and is so excited about going to nursery school I hate that it could all go sour so quickly. When we tried potty training we used some sweets just to get her to sit on the thing after a couple of days because she had got so fed up with it. Even when she was hopping around literally holding on with her hands she still wouldn't sit on the potty and if you tried to make her she would become almost hysterical. If you asked her nicely, mentioned sweets, stickers, how pleased daddy would be etc etc, she would either politely say no and then pee on the carpet or agree to sit on the potty for 5 minutes and then pee on the carpet.

I am not 100% certain about the nursery, maybe because it's Montessori and I don't really sign up to the philosophy/practice. But dd loves it, especially since 2 of the sessions are music and dance

Ds1 was 4yrs old before he finally stopped needing nappies in the daytime. If this 'dry only' policy had been in place he would have missed out on a heck of a lot. I would second the advice to contact the Early Years people.

How did it go today ?

I work at a nusery and for 2 - 5 year olds. We take children in nappies and let the parents tell us when they are ready for training. Some nuseries will not take the children in nappies as they have not got proper changing facilities.
Our inspectors tell us that to take children in nappies you most have a proper changing area.
I think there is an exception for children with special needs.