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Where do I stand!?

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MrsG95 · 08/03/2019 09:09

My baby is 10 months old, I have just recently went back to work and am relying on a few people (namely grandparents) to look after my son whilst I work 2 days a week.
Anyway, ds's dad is a nightmare. He is young, immature and, quite frankly, doesn't give a shit about anything but himself.
He was to meet me this morning so that he could take baby to his mother's house, so I could get to work. He started an argument because he didn't want to. He told me he wants nothing more to do with our son, and that he would be visiting his mother's house today at lunchtime to make sure that I hadn't taken baby there. He also threatened to take baby away if he was there.
He has only done this because he knows I won't get to work and I will be losing money.
Thing is, he isn't on the birth certificate, so where do I stand? I am not going to work today, but if he ever takes baby, then what can I do? Anyone help?

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NuffSaidSam · 08/03/2019 16:32

It's quite mixed messages....he doesn't want anything more to do with him, but he'll take him away if he's at his mum's?! Which is it?

If you think he is any threat to your son's safety go to the police. Keep any texts or anythjng that is evidence.

I assume his mum is ok if she's babysitting for you while your at work? Liaise directly with her re. the childcare.

Owwlie · 09/03/2019 19:01

If he isn't on the birth certificate and he takes the baby then you can phone the police. That would be kidnap. He is not legally a parent or guardian of the child, unless he goes to court to get himself named as the babies father.

jennybinky · 09/03/2019 22:35

Is he on the birth certificate? If he is then i'm sure he is able to take him unless there is a residency order in place. I wouldn't risk sending baby to his mums.. If someone said they would take my child away they would be kept as far from them as possible. Try speaking to his mum about what he has said.. i'm assuming you're on good terms since she looks after your son.

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Nanalisa60 · 09/03/2019 22:41

Talk to his mother if she has already agreed to baby sit I don’t think she will be very happy about her son telling you that you can’t take her grandson to her house!!

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