I don't know how to stop this!

[myotherbagisgucci]

I'm in need of some help and advice! I also know this is totally our own fault!

My 14 month old DD was really poorly last month and was sick in her sleep. I felt awful the morning after when I found her covered in dried sick. Especially as she didn't cry out and just slept in it.

She was sick throughout that whole day (doctor confirmed it was a sickness bug), she went to bed fine but then woke up about 11pm crying, so I brought her into our bed as I was worried she'd be sick again, but she was fine and slept perfectly.

She's fully recovered from her illness, but since that night she wakes up every night around 11pm crying because she wants to sleep with us.

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and I've tried to leave her, but the crying gets louder and louder until I give in and bring her in with us. I really want to stop this, especially before the next baby is born, but I don't even know where to start.

Any helpful advice from some experienced mummies and daddies would be very welcome!!

Anyone?

I don't have any advice I'm afraid but if you report your post and ask MNHQ to move it to one of the other parenting forums that are a bit busier you may get more responses, good luck!

How does she go to sleep at her bed time? Does she Self settle?

Hi, we're moving this thread over to our Parenting topic at the OP's request (and hoping some more Mumsnetters will be along with some advice soon).

for you, OP.

My DH or I give her a bottle, then put her down in her cot when she's asleep. I tried doing Joe Frosts (super nanny) self soothing guide, but by the time we'd got to leaving her for 6 minutes she'd worked herself up that much that she threw up all over herself and we haven't tried since.

You just need to not bring her in to your bed.

If she was doing before, she can do it again.

When she wakes at 11pm, go in and comfort her, but don't lift her out. Stroke her back, sing to her, offer her some water, whatever works to help her go to sleep. Stick with it. That's the most important bit! Consistency is key!

It's a difficult age because they're so clingy, or at least mine were. Can your DP comfort her in her own room rather than bringing her into your bed? Perhaps not helpful and I understand you want it sorted before the new baby comes but don't stress if it's not resolved in time.

She is super clingy at the moment, I don't think that's helped with me being at home all day with her at the moment.

But DH has been trying his best to settle her when she wakes. And as soon as he leaves her room, she starts crying again.

I know we need to leave her to self soothe, but I felt awful last time when she was sick.

You don't have to leave her to self soothe. You can stay and soothe her to sleep in her own bed, patting/stroking/singing etc

I don't know if it was a coincidence of writing this post yesterday, but she slept from 7.30pm-4.30am, then 5am-7.30am!! 🙌🏼

It was nice to have my half of the bed to myself! Lol!

That's good news Myother

My DS woke up covered in sick once after crying it out in cot the previous night. Guilt o’clock.

I think you need to hard ball and stop bringing her in before the baby comes. It’ll be worse if baby arrives and then you have to stop her as she may tie it to the new baby.

Do it now. Do it quick.

Oh hooray! Back in own bed :)