How to stop co sleeping with 9 month old..?

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Before anybody says, I know it's bad and we've created a rot for our own back. Consleeping was never ever the plan and we stuck to it for the first 6 months of his life. And then I got pregnant and the exhaustion got too much so I got desperate and resorted to anything that got us more sleep even if that meant co sleeping. But anyway he's now 9 months and even co sleeping is a nightmare. He still wakes up constantly. He's just awful and it's getting me and my partner both extremely down. We want to put him back in his own cot for obvious reasons and the fact that we have another baby on the way. Please send tips!!! Thanks

If you can afford a sleep consultant or night nanny, get one. It's money well spent.

If not, have a look at the various sleep training books there are out there and see which one sits best with you.

Prepare for a tricky few nights. Be consistent. The worst thing to do is to try something new, stick with it for half a night and then give up.

Why does he wake so frequently? Is it for milk? Cuddles? A play?

Feel for you it is so hard!! A few thoughts

sarahockwell-smith.com/2016/04/12/how-to-stop-cosleeping-and-bedsharing/ This may be useful

can you figure out if any problems making baby wake lots eg wearing too much or too little so too hot or cold, baby feeling unconnected with you during the day, eczema, etc

How much sleep does he get during the day? Could be not sleepy enough at night if eg sleeping few hours during day.

If you are feeding during night would recommend weaning off night feeds before weaning off cosleeping - Find a week or two when you can have catchup naps each day to make up for lost sleep at night. And just go cold turkey and stop. Cuddle and distract out the window etc whatever you need to do but stick to your guns and eventually the message will get through. That is what stopped our little one waking multiple times a night. at 12 months, couldn’t take it any more and it took just 3 nights of hardly any sleep for me and then the habit was broken, another couple weeks of a couple cuddles to settle her during the night but she adjusted and then started sleeping through the night

It is so hard, I have every sympathy for you and hope you manage to find a solution soon.

For me, realising the cot was never going to work for us was the first step - and a huge relief!

Both of mine coslept to 12mo+. My DD went into a single bed at 16mo but I think if we had another one, we'd go down the route we did with DS. At 12mo we moved him onto a double mattress on the floor in his own room. I'd still feed him to sleep and then escape once he was asleep. Then I'd go in and feed to sleep if he woke up. He didn't wake up by night 3 - although that wasn't it because with teething, illness etc you're always going to get ups and downs. But the double mattress meant I could always lie with him and then that changed to DH. We put him into a single bed at 18mo.