Husband thinks my ds spends too much time with me.....

[mum2oliver]

My dh thinks my ds spends too much time with me.He goes to playschool 4 sessions a week and to mums and tots twice a week.We go swimming every saturday and somewhere like the local park,walks on sundays.
Dh says he is a mummies boy and thinks that our 3month old dd will be the same.
What else should a boy 3 be doing then?
I couldnt comtinue the conversation with dh when he said all this so he hasnt had a chance to elaborate on it.I just couldnt listen to anymore shit.....

who is he meant to be with????

absurd

Don't think it's even possible at 3, for a child to spend too much time with a loving mummy. He obviously sees other kids - you'r husband is being is prat.

Yes, absolutely, your DS should be sending his time with whoever you can find to take him - anyone but you! Just because you're his mother.

Go on, go out your front door, and hand your DS to the first person you see.

Seriously, WTF is up with your DH? Does he have issues with his mother?

I childmind at the mo but mum has just given notice so having debates about me going back to work.
Im not qualified in anything so would go for an office job.Would earn tops of about 16k.Have 2 children so chilcare would be about £6 per hour with a childminder.Can anyone see that this would be worth it???

Im so angry with him and so dont want to bring the subject up with him cuz dont know what I will do!!!

Is the underlying argument about money? Or about your DS spending too much time with you (and possibly preferring you to your DH as a result)?

notquitcockney-hit nail on head I think.He must be jealous as my ds is besoted with me.Since dd was born ds has become a little clingy and needs me so much more.
Jealous I think!!!

Surely he should be working to build a relationship with your DS, rather than bollocking you because you have a good one with him.

I agree.Does anyone else have this prob with theire dh.
Dh is at work for so long.Its difficult.He finds it hard to discline.He feels guilty I think.Not doing ds any good though as no respect their.Ds doesnt know where he stands with dh.

Discipline? If he doesn't see DS that much, he should be spending that time telling him off. And anyway, discipline isn't very helpful at this age, imo.

Could he be jealous of your relationship with him? Maybe he needs to take him out for a day just dad and son.

You could get him a copy of Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph. There's lots of stuff in there about the importance of a father or father-figure (particularly after the age of six) that will massage his ego nicely but Biddulph is also very direct about the importance of spending lots of time with you when still very little. Seeing it written down in a book is helpful for some people, I think.