Hi all
In short my exH moved away (approx 1 hour distance) to live with his new girlfriend. He previously had the kids 3 nights per week. Now refuses anything else but fortnightly. We agreed on 99% of dates etc for the next year or so. Reluctantlyi might add because he wants to choose every single date and won't be flexible. The kids live with me and this is already on an order.
However, after a hearing at the family court, it's now referred to magistrates court because he wants me to do the driving! How is this fair? He moved away. And is about to move again actually.
Am I expected to follow him around the country? He's already moved from one child 12 years ago and travels to collect her and drop her off every fortnight. Her mother hasn't done the journey once! He wants my two on the same weekend and says he can't be in two places at once so I need to share the driving.
I've already had to change my job because he's moved and no longer having the kids mid week, as I used to work shifts when they were with him. If I'm forced to do some of the driving, I'll have to change my job again.
How much more control over my life is he going to have? The kids want to see him and I wholeheartedly encourage this, however I feel like I have no control over anything: access dates, holidays, driving etc.
Does anybody have experience of this? I don't mean to sound selfish and this should be about the kids but how is this fair? He has a top barrister, I have no representation because I can't afford it and I'm not prepared to get myself into debt overt this. He has a very well paid job (director) so can afford to throw money at all of this. My partner and I are simply getting by.
So frustrated!