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Nursery drop off nightmare again!!

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PrincessDaff · 05/03/2019 10:01

Hi everyone

I am hoping somebody can give me advice or at least reassure me that I am not the only one. My 21 month old ds has started screaming crying going in to nursery again. He has been going for over a year now. He cried when he first started but then got better and up until last month he used to run in without even waving bye to me but the last few weeks as soon as we pull up he starts crying and saying "no nursery".

I have spoken to the nursery staff to see if anything has changed and they have said that a few of the older children have moved up to the next class (he is due to move up in May) so maybe this is something to do with it but apart from that they say there are no other changes and once I am gone he is fine again and is happy.

Has anybody else had this? It is really getting me down. I keep crying when they have to peel him off my leg in the morning. Is this another stage they go through around this age?

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RogersVideo · 05/03/2019 10:11

My almost 3 year old, who had become completely happy at drop off, started completely losing it every morning when her baby brother started nursery too. I'd have thought she would be pleased! It took about a month for her to calm down.

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PrincessDaff · 05/03/2019 10:53

Awww no has she! They are such sensitive little creatures aren't they. I hope he settles again soon, my mum guilt is through the roof!

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Peachesandcream15 · 05/03/2019 12:15

We've had random phases of crying going into nursery. You're right to check with the staff if anything is going on but hopefully it's just a phase. I think the stage just before they reach 2 is hard, they get a bit too big for the baby room.

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PrincessDaff · 05/03/2019 12:32

Thanks Peaches, I was starting to think that he was getting too big for that room for a few weeks but he was fine going in. Maybe the fact some of his friends have now moved up has unsettled him again.

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JimJamJarmusch · 05/03/2019 13:35

Would the nursery let him do a few sessions in the 'big room' to see if that helps? DD did this - not because we had issues, just to ease the transition. There's a risk it might unsettle him more - but it may confirm the root of the issue, and may help with the eventual transition. Worth considering?

Kismetjayn · 05/03/2019 13:45

Mine had always been confident until a new girl joined who was not as well behaved. DD was really distressed/disrupted by the tantrums, by the behaviour- she was hitting, pushing, snatching, and scribbled on DD and painted her clothes.

I don't think the staff realised how much the behaviour was impacting on DD because obviously they were paying more attention to the new girl who must have been exhausting.

Is yours able to communicate his upset with words yet?

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PrincessDaff · 05/03/2019 13:59

I did ask about moving him into the next room but I was told there are 2 children who are to mive up first and he will be moving up in May.

No is not able to tell me why he is upset yet. He used to be fine and get excited when I would say we are going to nursery and now he gets upset when I even mention it and as soon as we pull up outside he starts crying and says no nursery. I could ask about any other children starting or any that are particularly unsettled at the minute. Its so hard seeing him go back to being upset going in!

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TigerQuoll · 05/03/2019 21:32

Can you get your husband to do drop off?

stillworkingitout · 05/03/2019 21:35

Both of mine have been unsettled at various times at nursery drop off. For us it is usually separation anxiety, and they settle well after I have gone. I find it very helpful to make drop off as quick and low key as possible and the staff work with me to enable this to happen (greeting, and distracting the child). I find this works really well and helps to get things smoother more quickly...

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PrincessDaff · 06/03/2019 06:37

Unfortunately I do all the nursery drop offs and pick ups for now as my partner works over an hour away and has to leave before the nursery opens. It is right by my work so I take him and pick him up on my way to and from work.

I do try and get out as quick as possible I will have to speak to staff again to make sure they are ready to distract him when he goes in. Wish me luck for this morning Sad

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Shuffletrufflepig · 06/03/2019 09:04

I have this with my daughter, she is older, but I wondered if the same Amy work for you. When we go into nursery she is far worse if I just drop and go, we have found by setting the sand timer for five minutes she can see the sand disappearing and knows it’s nearly time to go. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t but these days it is working better. Not sure if your child is too young to grasp the concept or whether that may work for you? It’s horribly distressing.

Jackshouse · 06/03/2019 10:12

Exact same issue with nearly 3 year old because her friends have moved up. Our nursery just moved DD up at our request because she was missing friends and developmental she was ready to move and they would have moved her after the Easter holiday.

Can you ask for him to start to transition to the bigger room?

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PrincessDaff · 06/03/2019 10:48

I did ask about moving him up and they said that there are 2 other children to be moved up before him and he will be moved in May. I will ask them again today when I pick him up.

He was screaming crying again going in this morning.

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