Failure as a mum

[San2020]

Hi, I’m a mother of a beautiful four year old. Lately I’ve been feeling really down and I’m not sure if it’s just because I’m so busy but I can’t seem to get into routines or stick to anything and i feel like I’m failing. I am trying to be a good mum, i work full time, trying to plan a wedding, trying to go to the gym and learning to drive. The driving I’m doing is so my daughter can go to the classes she wants to go to which I can’t get her to on public transport so she can’t go until I’ve passed (I feel sorry for her because her friends already go and she asks me every week). I am down because I don’t feel like I get enough time with her and feel so guilty all the time. I just don’t know how some mums do it? I’m finding myself snapping constantly and I’m so tired all of the time. All I want to do is sleep. I know it’s all just temporary and it’ll all work out but I’m so close to throwing in the towel and quitting my job and staying at home (which I know wouldn’t be any good for us) Any tips on how to manage a busy schedule and be a good parent? Thank you in advance 😊 P.s last year I had the implant in my arm and I don’t know if it could be linked but I have been feeling so much worse since that? Should I have it removed? I’m normally such a chilled out person and lately I could just rip my own hair out 😶

I don't know what to say except hug your baby whenever you can (co-sleeping?) and forgive yourself for everything. Routines aren't everything. Can you fit in the gym and driving lessons in your lunchbreak from work?

I'm retired and so zen and chilled it makes me laugh. But last week, I had a really busy week and by Saturday night, I was snappy and wanting to murder complete strangers who happened to annoy me. That used to be my everyday status. I think I was tired for about thirty years. Try to be easier on yourself. Good luck.

Thank you for the reply, I’m not co sleeping as my daughter snores like me very loud and prefers her own space 🤣. I’m trying I just feel sad all of the time and when I’m at work I want to go and get her! I only get half an hour for my lunch break at work... but rubbish really. It’s nice to hear that it’s not just me who gets this stressed out! I’m just hoping once I can drive then it will help a lot because I’m having to walk or get the bus in between all of this and it’s not helping 🙈 hopefully it’ll all be worth it in the end and my little girl won’t resent me for it! Thank again for your reply ❤️X

The implant was absolutely awful for my mental health, I felt like a new person after a few months of having it out. Might be worth considering other options, although they all have downsides

Ahh op you sound really down but I can see you love your daughter. Do you have a partner that can take some of the strain?

Hugs. It sounds hard. I would consider trying something other than the implant, you never know! Copper coil (non hormonal) is good with no side effects. Hormonal contraceptives made me want to kill myself!