Potty training and nursery ...

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... does it help or does it make it worse?

My dd is starting to show signs she's getting ready (20 months) - but was just wondering whether people found that when you bit the bullet and decided to go for it, if going to nursery set them back? Or did you still put them in nappies when they went? She's in nursery 3 days a week and I don't know how it'd work ... 4 days with me at home then 3 days in a different routine ...

Can see myself putting this off until she's ready for school at this rate!!!!

Usually nursery should help with this. If you start potty training then they should carry it on for you. It can actually make it easier - my SIL told me that their nursery actually potty trained their dd for them as she was full time! The nursery trained her Monday - Friday and by the time they had her home at the weekend she was already virtually fully potty trained, just had 1 accident I think!

However, I haven't yet experienced this, so just passing on what I've heard from others. My dd is also at nursery 3 days a week, but I know that they certainly do help with potty training as I have heard all the conversations they have with other parents about how their child has been at using toilet/potty that day. I did have one disastrous potty training attempt with my dd a few months ago and had to give up. She's now coming up 2 1/2 and just this week has got really interested again and I think she is now in fact ready, but I'm due to have baby #2 in the next few weeks so am definitely not going to train her now. Talk about bad timing!

Don't think it's a good idea though once you do start training to put them back in nappies some of the time, as it confuses them. But just my opinion...

IMO nursery really helped with ds potty training. I don't think we'd have been as far as we are now without them. Dry in the day, the only thing he refuses to do is poo in the toilet. He always poos his pants but after speaking to other people on mn and talking to nursery this is very common with little boys. Ds also does 3 days at nursery and I kept putting off the potty trainig thing as I didn't really know where to start etc, etc. It was nursery that said to me we think he's ready to start potty training do you want to give in a go?? Go on do it, in my expreience nursery will help you out 110%

I think nursery definitely helped with dd's potty training. she'd seen other children going to the loo and wanted to be a "big girl". We started PT one weekend, where we were constantly nearby with a potty, and asked her every half hour or so if she needed it. On the monday she was taken to nursery in pants with a few spares packed in her bag, and she has been fine. For the first couple of days she was running to the loo every time another child went, but she had no accidents at all!

Thanks everyone - to be honest, although she's showing signs (e.g. when she needs a poo she rubs her tummy and says "poorly", and then she did a little fart in the bath the other night and said "oops potty" so we got her out and she sat on it and strained a bit, did more farts but no poo, then lost interest and wandered off - didn't poo though till morning), I'm not sure she really is ready. I don't know - tough one isn't it!

Nursery said children are usually 2.5, sometimes girls are earlier. I'll keep my eye on her ...