Ill husband

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Please help!
I have married for 19 years to someone who is very ill and having a negative effect on parenting my 13 year old son
My husband has a serious illness possibly cfs/me (not diagnosed yet) he will punish our son for things and hes now fighting back but it feels like only i understand. I try to keep them away from each other but they just argue and it escalates.
I feel so helpless, on going stress for everyone!

What kinds of things is your son been punished for and what kind of punishment?

Banned from the x box for submersing himself in it. E.g. getting late for school because of it

That sounds like a reasonable punishment to me. What do you think would be are more suitable reaction to the situation?

Thanks for the reply.
I have disovered how I let my son treat me is what bothers me. I try to be strict with him when needed but he lashes out that is normal. My problem is I can't control his aggressive behaviour, I want to discipline him without my husbands help.

Lashing out is not normal but it is not entirely unusual. It sounds like you and your son are in a situation where the average parenting skills won’t get you out. I would ring SS and ask if they can help you with a parenting course. There is an amazing national course called triple P parenting course which loads of people find helpful and you will meet people in the same situation as you.

You and your son can improve this situation but it will take work.

Many thanks, the most challenging thing for me is my husband has me, affects the whole family and m in law is ill so me and my children sometimes walk on egg shells.
Trying to reason with my 13 year old son is murder. Unless the course is online it would be very demanding. Ill try your advice, thanks again.