Best time out location for toddler

[Lizbiz89]

My dd has started the dreaded aggressive stage where if she does get her way she throws things on the floor in anger. I want to start putting her in a chill out location for a couple of minutes to calm her down. I've been told putting her in her cot is a no no as she should only relate her cot to sleep. Please can anyone recommend any other good chill out locations for a 24 month old?

Bottom step of the stairs?

Travel cot/pen in living room?

We had “calm carpet” for ds. It was a sample square of carpet from carpet wholesalers. Totally different colour to my normal carpet. other advantage to something small is you can take it places eg gparents to maintain consistent approach.

Bottom step works well for us as it is away from the main room but it depends on the layout of your house

We have a 'cold spot' at the far end of the sofa, our son learnt to associate that with time-out for misbehaviour.

I hope this doesn’t sound too annoying, but it’s worth considering the idea of ‘time in’ instead of time out. When toddlers experience big feelings that lead to tantrums, they really need your help to work out what’s going on and help to learn that the feelings pass. It doesn’t mean they are allowed to break anything etc, but if you think about it, how will being alone teach a child that young to calm down?

In practice, you talk alongside child about what is happening ‘you are feeling really angry because I didn’t give you another biscuit’ etc etc, and repeating what the emotion is now and again ‘Jane is very upset/angry/frustrated’. You may need to prevent her hurting herself or stuff and say ‘I won’t let you throw things’ etc, but remind her that you are there to give her a cuddle to help her calm down when she is ready. For me it’s preferable to communicate ‘you don’t get to behave like that but I will be here to help you with how you feel’ than to exclude them temporarily from your relationship. DD at 3 will now sob ‘I need a cuddle’ during a tantrum and seek help to calm.