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Posting again as no responses and I really need help :(

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Lily715 · 23/02/2019 00:14

Hi everyone.
Really worried about sister.
11 months post partum with first baby. Hardly been out with partner or friends since she was born. No one (family and friends) can do anything right. Everyone on egg shells all the time worried about upsetting her. Constantly taking people the wrong way. Doesn't trust many people to look after my neice and strikes people off if they do one thing she thinks is wrong or they get stressed/tired at all. Making wild accusations about people. Has strange delusions about what people think.
Had she got post natal depression?
Please help.

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DownUdderer · 23/02/2019 00:15

What about post partum physcosis? Sorry not sure of the correct spelling

BaileyD222 · 23/02/2019 00:17

Yes, sounds like PND. You obviously can't force her into anything but would gently suggest to her making a doctors appointment.

justilou1 · 23/02/2019 00:17

Call SS

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endofthelinefinally · 23/02/2019 00:17

She does sound unwell.
The appropriate person to contact would be the health visitor.
You can find out how to do that by looking at the gp practice website.

firsttimebabybirther · 23/02/2019 00:19

Is it conversation you or anyone would feel comfortable broaching with her?

The one year review will be coming up soon with the health visitor , prime opportunity to maybe remind her that the health visitor is there for her as well as baby?

Failing that , her partner can always contact the health visitor for advice, they are not just there for new mums.

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Lily715 · 23/02/2019 00:20

I don't think its psychosis as that tends to be more applicable to acute episodes and this is long term

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Willowkins · 23/02/2019 00:20

How was the birth? If it was traumatic, could it be PTSD?

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Lily715 · 23/02/2019 00:23

Thank you so much everyone.
Currently she will not speak to me at all so unsure of what to do next really. I have not seen my neice in 3 months as she will not allow me too and I am devastated. Just so worried. My mum thinks she has PND but will not broach it with her as she is worried about the reaction.

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Lily715 · 23/02/2019 00:25

justilou1 what exactly would be the point of calling SS??

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Lily715 · 23/02/2019 00:27

Willowkins - it was emergency c - section and she felt she should've raised the alam sooner so possibly at least an element of PTSD.

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Willowkins · 23/02/2019 00:43

I know how difficult it is to not be allowed to see your DN. I suppose if she got a diagnosis that might help to explain her decisions but it might not change them. Maybe just offer unconditional love and support and hope she'll let you back in?

AssassinatedBeauty · 23/02/2019 00:46

I also think it sounds like PTSD, it sounds very similar to a relative of mine who behaved in very similar ways.

Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do directly, she will likely reject any approach as a criticism and react harshly. I would suggest trying to gently regain contact with her, even if you don't get much response. As long as your niece is being taken care of I can't see that Social Services will get involved.

averystrangeweek · 23/02/2019 00:52

Do you get on well with her partner, and have you been able to talk to him about it? He may be at the end of his tether too, but he would really need to be the one to approach his gp or the hv to discuss things.

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Lily715 · 23/02/2019 16:41

Thanks everyone this has been helpful.
I never thought much about PTSD, was focusing on PND. At the moment I dont think there is anything I can do as I know her so well and I know she will fight me if I try and talk to her. Her boyfriend will hear no wrong about anything she does so he is not an option unfortunately. This one will be a waiting game I think. But missing my neice every day as used to seeing her once a week since she was born.

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