How do I "pushing" the naughty one without "pushing" the good one ??

[Denmark]

Basicly the problem is this I have a DD who is 3.6 and a DS who is 2.2. They are playing with the same toys, dolls, tractor, mini kitchen etc. they don't have toys that is DD and toys that are DS. With the exception of her bike, her doggy (teddy she sleeps with) and her "baby" (which she also sleeps with). He has a blanket and a tigger which he sleeps with.
My problem is when one of them is being naughty etc and the other one is playing nicely, I try to talk explain that I am not happy, this is wrong etc. But if that fails my threats is taking toys away, no tv/DVD etc but that always ending up with effecting the one who is playing nicely, he/she will loose a toy or can not watch tv even though it is her/his favourite show etc. What should I do. I don't want to take away the thing they use for comfort like teddy, baby and blanket, any ideas.

Don't take away toys/tv time as punishment.

Remove child from toys (tv). Put them in "time out" or "naughty" step -- for small but set amount of time (say one minute).

Then start over.

Worth a try, I would think.

That is worth trying with my DD to put her in their room but regarding DS he actually likes when I put him in their room for being naughty (or really any room) he tell me "close the door maman PLEASE" so for him that is not a threat

What is his favourite activity?

he loves to be outside, ah ha that just gave me a perfect idea (now that the weather is nice) to keep him from playing on our terasse, when he is naughty. Thank you. otherwise he like playing with his tractors, cook food for everyone in their mini kitchen but that is also something that DD loves

there you go ! And remember what Nanny Jo says - "keep them in naughty chair/away from the fun for a minute for every year of their life" it works for me (well..... sometimes)
Cant help but think that is so sweet tho "close the door maman PLEASE"

What d'you mean by not playing nicely? If mine are playing I leave them be.

If trouble breaks out I do something with the trouble maker.

Jackie2Kids not trying to be rude or anything, but read the full sentence again:
"My problem is when one of them is being naughty etc and the other one is playing nicely"

try time out in a different room. it was always the downstairs toilet for us. i reckon it would be a lot less fun in there!

I would def remove the child that is misbehaving, and that sorts the problem of not punishing the one who is doing well. I know you say your son likes being put in another room, find the room with no toys and then make a big fuss of dd and play with her, show him what he is missing.

Lisa