Routine with 13 week old baby

[Harveyrabbit76]

I ebf my DS and I seem to be just feeding on demand even though he is 16 lb and I feel he could go longer between feeds. Is there any point forcing the issue at this stage? I feel like i am forever breastfeeding at the moment! He did start almost sleeping through last week but seems to have stopped that too. Any advice?

Also, a friend helpfully remarked when visiting that they put their babies upstairs in the evening whereas I have mine downstairs with me according to sids advice. He does seem to be disturbed by the noise and wont sleep until I take him upstairs with me when i go to bed. Does anyone else put their baby to sleep upstairs in the evening? Sorry for the rambling post!

I have a 12 week old at 13lb 7oz and I put him upstairs to sleep for all naps I have a monitor called arlo to keep an eye on him down stairs. He doesn’t sleep in arms really now and if he is over tired we have a worse night.

He does sleep in my room in his snuzpod though so I am with him for his bigger feeds.

Sadly breastfeeding didn’t work our for me I had no milk so can’t comment on that side.

I think every baby is different though and you have to trust your instinct

@middlrm Thank you. Does yours still wake for night feeds?
I have a heart and video monitor, so I could start doing putting him up there. The only thing is that the few times I have tried it, I was running up and down all night or I had to stay up there all night to help him stay asleep. I am sure I am doing this all wrong. My DD was so different!

He still has between 2 to 3 night feeds ( I love the smaller number ) but will go 4 hours between feeds at night on a good run.

But i still have the occasional 2 hourly feed too... I feed on demand on the basis that he is growing a lot plus his reflux and colic disturbs him and the feeds comfort him.

I have found that wind was a major factor before for him pretty much never sleeping ( about 4 weeks ago I was celebrating 1 hours sleep all night ... dark days ) infracol has helped massively as the wind was making the reflux worse although he is a tough cookie the reflux is very painful I am told as it’s acid burning his throat and it’s like a different baby when we can stay on top of the wind.

I have a friend with a 2 week old who has had success with breast feeding but she expresses through the day to give him a bottle for a night feed and then tops up with formula .. and baby sleeps 3 hour slots

But sometimes I think it is the hand you are dealt by then I was bottle feeding having realised my poor chap was not getting breast milk and he still didn’t sleep.... but it was wind in the end.

I wouldn’t check too often you have all the tech to be safe and you would disturbing the baby each time you go in ... saying that if thkmas is asleep 1 hour I will go check but I am not helping myself by doing it. I logically know that anyhow 😂😂

I would be interested in how you keep your little one entertained!! My little one has a baby gym with lots of toys/ teddies that I make sing and dance to him/ we do baby disco ( I hold him and dance and chcangenour living room light colours ) we sing nursery rhymes / tummy time / we play superman and I kiss tickle and make faces .... 2 hours - 4 hours later some days I am boring him half to death and I am out of ideas.

I go out and visit family 2-4 times in a week and every other week do play group and baby weighing ( so many kids with snotty noses I worry he is gonna get sick if I do it much more )

But he is still getting fed up ... I feel like their brains are out growing their bodies at this age x x

Hi, thanks for the advice! I have a 2.5 year old DD and she helps entertain DD! I also have a swing that I put him in which he likes as plays music. I got a jumperoo for my DD when she was old enough and she loved it.
To be honest, because of the DD, the baby has to almost entertain himself at times

My DD also really liked swim and monkey music

Thank you, and good luck with the routine, when did you start putting your first baby down on own in the Room?

I expect your new baby is like mine when it comes to being nosey and refusing to sleep encase they miss out he has to be away from noise and distraction or he will go all day without sleep and be in a bad mood for it x x I will look into a jumperoo was considering a walker because he is already pushing up a lot on legs but jumperoo may be more fun x

Probably at 6 months but she would sleep in the end of the room or the kitchen but we have moved to a bigger house which has separate rooms.

My DS is so nosey! Wants to be part of everything and my DD is so noisy!!

I got a jumperoo second hand and I used it every day. Really worth it.

13 weeks is often a period of cluster feeding as they are prepping for the upcoming growing spurt at 16ish weeks.
SIDs advice is to be in the same room as your baby because it's about them hearing you breathe and regulating their own breathing to yours.

@spugzbunny - thanks. I thought it might be something like that as well.

I went upstairs with DS last night at 9 hoping to get him to bed earlier and we still didn't fall asleep unti 10.30

I don't think mine started sleeping earlier until about 5/6 months. Then it slowly came back. She didn't see through until 10 months though. Every baby is different but I'm a big fan of going with the flow. For me it was more enjoyable to sit downstairs and watch tv than try and sit in a dark room getting her to sleep. I realised neither of us were loving it!

I think you are right, its a bit depressing to have to go upstairs when I know I have an endless battle ahead of me. I just get confused when people say they have a bedtime routine and then they put the baby down and it sleeps?!

My friends baby is 2 weeks old they have a better routine than me. I have a rough routine but I tend to hang around until he falls asleep but I often just lay in my bed with my back to him if story time singing and usual methods fail .... sometimes I fall asleep before he does I think ( when he isn’t crying ) it’s not one shoe fits all.

Follow your instinct to a point .... I
Like early nights, and my baby is a 9-10pm to bed baby normally ... which I find tough which is why that hour of getting things done in the day or watching 10
Moms of a programme is important xx