You can do it, I sort of manage it - NOT EVERYDAY though!
Well spotless is a lie but it's clean and tidy most of the time, i have certain times of the day (usually when dd2 and mindee are in bed) when i clean up then later when kids are eating dinner sometimes i clean up or if not then i will do it when dd2 is in bed but i always sit down by 8pm no matter waht state the place is in, if i haven't had time to hoover and its not to bad then sod it i'll do it the next day at about 7.30 am before mindee comes at 7.45am.
I thyink my kids are well adjusted i'm certainly not running round with a duster ignoring them.
I find things to help keep on top of it are........
Dp takes the kids out for a bit on a weekend so i can deep clean now and again.
Don't leave a room empty handed
Hoover in the morning or last thing there is absolutly no point in between waste of time when you could be mn-ing same for mopping
everything must have a place where it lives, the best thing i have is a draw just for the kids cutlery and a draw for adults same with cups, bowls etc. I also have a sideboard with draws and each draw has a purpose, eg 1.nappies and wipes, 2.paperwork to be filed (this gets sorted when its full) 3. dp's crap 4. childminding stuff etc etc
Shoes and coats must be put away by whoever wears them
Most toys live in bedrooms but the stuff i do have down here i rotate, i have a few plastic boxes in an area behind the sofa and a huge barrel of duplo and some ride on toys so everything can be chucked down there at the end of the day, also a wooden toybox in the bay window same with that and i can shut curtains on it at night.
right must go now bk later.